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How to find a nice straight guy? Im a pretty mtf girl

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EmilyMK03

#20
August 07, 2016, 12:51:43 AM
What a lovely date Haradonia!  So glad to hear it went well.  :)

I am trying to pick up some advice here and there about dating, and it's good to read all the stories and experiences shared here!
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Ciara

#21
August 07, 2016, 06:10:56 AM
Hi Haradonia,
That sounds like a lovely date 😉. I'm really happy that this has worked out for you.
Ciara.
I don't have a gender issue.
I love being a girl.
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JenniferLopezgomez

#22
August 07, 2016, 12:15:09 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on August 04, 2016, 08:02:28 PM
"I'm transgender. If that hasn't stopped you in your tracks, feel free to write."

That's the first line from my OKCupid profile. I feel it's much better to put it right out there and avoid any misunderstandings down the road. I usually reply to any contact by asking if they've read my profile. Sometimes they go away after that.  :laugh:

I met the man I'm dating on Craigslist, though. I find you need a thicker skin to use that site, but it gets a lot of traffic. And I found a keeper there!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

Devlyn, Excellent procedure, and congratulatons!

Hugs,
Jennifer xx
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JenniferLopezgomez

#23
August 07, 2016, 12:27:04 PM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 06, 2016, 07:22:03 PM
Hi Haradonia,

Very early into my transition, I knew I wanted to try going out with a guy after a lifetime of relationships with women. I signed up on several of the TG/CD specific dating sites and was quite surprised with the amount of responses I received. As you can imagine... Much of it was a little crude and not all that welcome but, amongst all of it, I found a few that that were nice!!!... Not only secure with who they were, but secure with the attraction they felt to me as an "unconventional woman." They approached me in a respectful manner, shared themselves honestly through what they wrote me and I did the same.

There was one in particular with whom I seemed to share a lot of common ground and lived just two hours north... We met in person and all has gone well since... He is a wonderful supportive man who has been with me through the whole process of facial procedures, GRS etc. We got a house together over a year ago and last December he proposed to me... We are planning a September wedding.

My story, I believe, is likely quite outside the norm... I know it can be a tough world for us on all fronts but especially out there on the dating scene....I am writing this because I want it out there that sometimes it works out!!!.. And...in ways you never saw coming!!!... You need to move into things with confidence in who you are and knowing you have a place in this world just like everyone else. Move ahead with respect for yourself, for others and with hope!!!

When I decided to transition, I knew I had to so that I could live MY life but I suspected my decision was also going to lead down a very sad and lonely path. Happily, I was wrong!!!

One interesting aspect of all this as the way my attraction morphed... I found as transition progressed that my attraction to females melted away... When I looked at a woman who I might have previously been attracted to, I found myself experiencing mostly just envy...("wish I had her hair, skin, eyes etc...) A transwoman friend put forward a theory that resonated with me immediately... That what I had always thought was a healthy attraction to women was on some level, hero worship... As I thought about the greatest relationships of my life... I think she was right...on some level, I wanted to be those women!...

Onward we all go!!!

Take Care,
Ashley

Hi Ashley, Some of your transition dating experiences match mine. As a teeneager I only had a boyfriend for sex for 2 years way before I transitioned, but then much later dated women sexually.

Since becoming Jennifer full-time I've only dated sexually ONE cis lesbian girl. We are still friends it was a great relationship but we both moved.

Now I date lovely MEN. My body is stunningly feminine beautiful now, and it is MEN who want me badly. I have no problem turning online dates into real world sexual dates. I had sex as beautiful Jennifer with about 40 men in 2015.

Like you, as my body changed who was attracted to me changed drastically. Women aren't attracted to me sexually anymore, but as good friends.

MEN badly want intimacy with me. Only have been intimate with 1 man in 2016 though.

This will likely change next weekend A nice man online last night offered to pay all of my airfare and hotel expenses later this week, so I can visit him over next weekend or the folowing weekend, on a long domestic flight in the country I currently live in.

Muahhh ! I feel sure we will "get it on" in bed all next weekend or the weekend after.

So, let's see if he indeed sends me domestic airfare money this week. Our hotel he will pay for after I arrive in his city.

It was fun flirting with him last night on Webcam. He cannot resists my feminine charms.

FUN to be sexy beautiful Jennifer !

Have fun with YOUR dates with lovely men !!!

Hugs,
Jennifer xx
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tgirlamg

#24
August 07, 2016, 03:32:45 PM
Enjoy Jennifer!!!... No more dating scene for me!... We became engaged last December and are getting married next month!!!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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JenniferLopezgomez

#25
August 07, 2016, 04:49:00 PM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 07, 2016, 03:32:45 PM
Enjoy Jennifer!!!... No more dating scene for me!... We became engaged last December and are getting married next month!!!

Take Care,

Ashley :)

WOW Ashley congrats sounds fab ! !!!!!!! :)

Yes indeed I sure enjoy my dating and also clubbing/dancing with friends.

Take care,
Jennifer xx
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pretty pauline

#26
August 07, 2016, 04:58:07 PM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 07, 2016, 03:32:45 PM
Enjoy Jennifer!!!... No more dating scene for me!... We became engaged last December and are getting married next month!!!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
Congratulations Ashley, it's all ahead for you, I'm 6 years married to my husband this month, we got married in August 2010, the next few weeks will be very busy for you, a busy time for a woman, getting married, I'd do it all again.
If your going thru hell, just keep going.
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tgirlamg

#27
August 07, 2016, 11:06:02 PM
Thank you both so much for the well wishes!!!! I nailed the dress a couple weeks ago but still working on shoes!!! ...  Here's the dress!!!...

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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formerly-me

#28
August 08, 2016, 12:36:10 AM


Quote from: tgirlamc on August 06, 2016, 07:22:03 PM
One interesting aspect of all this as the way my attraction morphed... I found as transition progressed that my attraction to females melted away... When I looked at a woman who I might have previously been attracted to, I found myself experiencing mostly just envy...("wish I had her hair, skin, eyes etc...) A transwoman friend put forward a theory that resonated with me immediately... That what I had always thought was a healthy attraction to women was on some level, hero worship... As I thought about the greatest relationships of my life... I think she was right...on some level, I wanted to be those women!...

Onward we all go!!!

Take Care,
Ashley

Wow... I don't want to highjack this thread, but I'm in the early stages of transgender realizations, and this paragraph *really* resonated with me. I spent a few sessions telling my new therapist about my quasi-religious worship of women when we started. A month later, I tell her that I think I'm transgender.

Thanks for writing this: it really helped me pinpoint what some of my feelings are.
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tgirlamg

#29
August 08, 2016, 09:35:02 AM
Hi Formrerly-Me!

Thanks for posting you kind words...I am happy you found some value in my words. Transition, for me, was full of a lot of self revelations about my past... How the GD had colored so much more of my life, my decisions, relationships etc. than I had ever realized!

Self exploration... The last frontier!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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formerly-me

#30
August 08, 2016, 10:18:58 AM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 08, 2016, 09:35:02 AM
Hi Formrerly-Me!

Thanks for posting you kind words...I am happy you found some value in my words. Transition, for me, was full of a lot of self revelations about my past... How the GD had colored so much more of my life, my decisions, relationships etc. than I had ever realized!

Self exploration... The last frontier!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
Indeed, you're welcome. I will see my therapist today so I will definitely bring up this new idea to her. Thanks again!
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jujubes1986

#31
August 08, 2016, 09:47:30 PM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 07, 2016, 03:32:45 PM
Enjoy Jennifer!!!... No more dating scene for me!... We became engaged last December and are getting married next month!!!

Take Care,

Ashley :)

That is so nice to hear :) congratz :)





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tgirlamg

#32
August 08, 2016, 11:07:56 PM
Thanks Jujubes!!!... I will post pics after the wedding next month!!!... Onward we go!!!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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juliehope

#33
August 24, 2016, 08:18:57 AM
Hi Ashley

Thank you for posting this positive story and giving girls like me hope that we will find someone to love us as we really are.

Since transitioning I have lost a wife and and been amazed to discover a need to be with a man. What a shock that was, I have not yet dated anyone, but after GCS, I will try and find someone. FFS has improved my passability and self confidence. I just wish I looked as fabulous as you !

Take care
Love Jools x
;)
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Cassuk

#34
August 24, 2016, 11:51:48 AM
Quote from: tgirlamc on August 07, 2016, 11:06:02 PM
Thank you both so much for the well wishes!!!! I nailed the dress a couple weeks ago but still working on shoes!!! ...  Here's the dress!!!...



Stunning :D
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tgirlamg

#35
August 24, 2016, 12:19:49 PM
Thank you both for the kind words!!!... Julie...  I am sorry for the loss of your wife but amazing things are ahead for you!!! The people in our life before transition can often not make the journey with us... It can hurt to leave familiar faces and situations behind...but, in the long run...the new people will come along and the new ones will be a better reflection of a new life that is finally and truly your own!

Take Care,

Ashley :)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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