Post op SEX

[Joanna]

Hello lovely people.

I have a couple of questions to my fellow post op sisters about post op sex.............

I am now 8 months post SRS with DR Suporn.  I am very happy with my new lady parts and they look fab.  It has helped with my confidence, and I feel so much more comfortable.  I even love the way I pee now!

First question: - postions - I am really struggling to have intercourse with my b/f.  Its really frustrating me. The only way he can get close to entering me is if I lie flat with my legs down, and he is literally lying on top of me.  If I bend my knees, its as if my vagina closes.  I have a very stubborn and very strong pelvic floor muscle that gets in the way.  It makes sex painful and in the end we give up and have anal instead.  I had SRS as I wanted vaginal sex! Not just anal.   

Second question: - sensation: - I had my first orgasm about 8 weeks post op.  I was just having a play and wham! it was awesome, I loved it. I suffered some necrosis of the clitoris post op but I do still have a small but functioning clit.  I also have the "second area" that Dr Suporn talks about.  Apparently behind the clitoris.  Anyway, gradually as time has progressed, orgasms have been more and more difficult to achieve and sensation feels much less.  The only way I can achieve an orgasm is by using a vibrator. I thoght things would get easier, but instead they seem to be getting more difficult?? 

Dilation is going fine.  Once a day and no problems.  I use all 3 dilators.  Takes a little while but generally no issues.

Just wondering if anyone has any hints or tips.  Or if anyone can land some advice.
I was not planning on going back to Thailand for a revision if I can help it.

Thanks in advance ladies xx

[tgirlamg]

Hi Joanna!!!

When my fiancé and I first started sex post op I would always dialate right before... I no longer feel the need but it might help you relax things which could enable other positions to work?

I have been able to orgasm fairly easily without a vibrator since  4 weeks post op with Bowers... I was supposed to wait longer but I was anxious to know!!! but ... I haven't been able to get enough direct stimulation out of intercourse alone to orgasm yet but ...gonna keep trying!!!

Good luck on all future explorations!!!!


Take Care,

Ashley

[Joanna]

Hi Ashley

Thank you for your reply. I thought about dilating before sex as I am sure this would make things easier. My b/f and I like sex in the morning though and its kinda spontaneous.  Having to halt it to do a dilation kills the moment.  I think that I may try dilation first though maybe one evening just to see if it does make a difference.

Thanks again
Jo
x

[Serenation]

Think suporns dilaters are fairly small though that should only matter if your boys bigger than what you use. If not dilate with your legs up to get used to that.

[tgirlamg]

Good point Serenation... A friend of mine, who had surgery in Thailand with Kamol, had difficulties with intercourse and she showed me her dialator set.... The large dialation in her set was about the same size as the small one in my set from Dr Bowers... After she got some larger ones and got used to them, everything got easier

[Shelly Maree]

Hi Joanna,  I would be trying a little extra dilation, even if you went back to twice daily to help the body adjust. I was dilating approx 1 hour before, when I first started dating my boyfriend. My first few times we also did struggle and I found it also hard to take him. He was very understanding and was very gentle when initially entering me. I found that relaxation is important and I had to de-stress as I think I was trying too hard. Some gentle cuddling, kissing and foreplay was and still is essential. We did find if I was to lay on my side with legs slightly bent, then as he got close I would lift my leg that was on top and put it across his legs and he would very slowly enter from that position. We would take entry very slow and then slowly progress with sexual movements from this. We did find that after a few minutes we could move to other positions and re-entry was fairly comfortable.(hope that is not too graphic

Nowdays I consider our relationship to be fairly sexually active and initial penetration is no problems and we can both climax from penetration. So my advice is to stick to dilations, relax and as things get better lay back and enjoy, as sex with a fully functional vagina will have you floating on top of the world, believe me it is woth being patient.

[Eva]

Why not get a sex toy thats about his size and try loosening up in bed in the morning with that first??? Thats all I can think of alongside of going with a bigger dilator... Im one month post op with Suporn and Im still sore and the though of sex yet is unimaginable... I think his biggest 34mm dilator is too small compared to a man and If I was you Id get some bigger ones and drop Suporns small one... I have the green 35mm and orange 38mm Soul source dilators on the way and I do plan to try some sex toys soon as well

[Joanna]

Thank you so much ladies for all of your advice.  I have listened.  I am now skipping the small dilator and spending more time with the medium and large.  Twice as much time with the large.  I am tight.  I have good depth, but I need to spend some quality time with Mr Large to reduce tightness.
Dont worry Shelly, not too graphic at all.  It is good advice and I will try to implement this next time we have "a go".

[Shelly Maree]

i did mean to say that was entry from behind

[warlockmaker]

It's about the size of your dilator in circumference ...my number 2 from PAI is almost 4 inches in circumference and my number 3 is about 4 3/4 inches in circumference. Thought I would never need the large one unless I'm looking for someone really big.

But I needed it and it was difficult to begin with but it all ok now.. To not lose the mood use your fingers to widen the entrance initially.

[calicarly]

Yeah, looks like you need to go back to dilating twice a day for a little longer Hun, at very first being penetrated from behind was uncomfortable and painful and so missionary was the way to go for a few weeks, fast forward a few more weeks and all the positions seem just fine, my man penetrates me from behind just as easily now and it all just depends on what mood we are in. My opinion is push through the discomfort When you're newly post op the first few weeks of vaginal intercourse. It was a matter of a few weeks for me I had full on missionary about a week before 3 months post op and from behind also but that was very painful until about near the 4 month post op it has all been joy since then.

[tonia]

I had penile inversion four years ago and I still find (tears) that I have to get  "prepared" before intercourse with dilator. I feel like the vagina lining needs to be stretched and moisten before, otherwise the penetration feels discomfort for the man. He said he feels like that my vagina pushes his penis out.

My depth is not that much, around 11 cm, but to achieve that I need to do what I wrote, otherwise it feels like I'm half in depth, that's might be the reason for the "push" effect....

[Virginia Hall]

I think that, like our cis sisters, with time the partner dilates you better than any piece of plastic. I find that lube helps.

[Miss Lux]

I am more than 10 years post op... My problem is d width of the penis that I can accomodate... I am a petite Asian girl... Pre coital dilation helps, doesn't need to be immediately before ... I dilate few hours before or consecutive days before if I know that it will happen.. The most comfortable position for both of us is when I am on top.... I prefer silicone based lube over water based because d water based dries up quickly and gets sticky fast... Most of the orgasm I get is from receiving oral sex....I agree that the dilators from thailand given post op are rather small/ skinny... I bought bigger dilators I think mine is for cis women with vaginal  canal problems....

Girls, which dilators do you think is best in increasing width?

[Sharon Anne McC]

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Another option:

If your schedule calls for night-time duty session, then retain your largest device over-night so that you will be flexible first-thing in the morning.

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[warlockmaker]

The girls that I know who have surgery at PAI and Chettawut have 3 to 4 dilators with progressive width. For example Dr Chett number 4 is the same as PAI number 3. These are well over 4.3 inches in girth/ circumference and wider than any man I have been with.

I agree that silicon based lube for sex is better. I use water based for dilation tho. Less unhealthy gung inside my vagina.... lol

[Miss Lux]

I did my SRS with Dr. Chet yearsssss ago... He used to provide wax/ candle made dilators which you have to put condoms on before using lol and the thickest is not that wide, so I bought Several dilators here in the US which are wider once I was healed... I think I am using Amelie the last 2 biggest for years so far I have maintained depth and width... i would go for months without dilation or sex...I am 11-12 years post-op.

[Jenna Marie]

The usual recommendation is for Soul Source dilators; the orange one is 1.5" in diameter, which is about 4.7" in circumference. I've never been with a guy, but my wife swears that's about the size I used to be, so she did giggle the first time I had to cram it in there.

(Brassard's nurses also recommended strongly against sleeping with a dilator because of the risk of infection or injury.)