To newer trans ladies: Congratulations on your decision to transition to womanhood ! In the end, despite advice from doctors, psychiatrists, counselors, family, friends, other trans girls, and others -- in the end only YOU can make the final decision. For sure.
We live in a cisgender (non-trans) real world since 99.4 to 99.7 % of the people in the world are not trans. So to be successful as a full-time woman in real life you will probably have to comply with many or even most cisgender standards of womanhood. Some may say this shouldn't be necessary, however I have learned from experience that this is the best path for MY happiness. You can decide for yourself.
VOICE -- Female hormones will NOT medically help your voice. For female to male, yeah, but sorry male to female NO. This is a proven medical fact you can easily verify elsewhere if you like.
This takes a lot of training and practice. If you were to hear me on the phone or videocall without seeing my face, you would have no doubts that you are speaking with JENNIFER, woman. If you have seen any of my recent videos you know this to be the case of course.
Women speak in a melodic voice, with lots of up and down voice inflection. This is totally different from how most men speak. Also, woman usually end most declarative sentences with an upward voice inflection -- almost like you are asking a question, as if to gain the approval of your listeners by being feminine demure. Men tend to end declarative statements with a downward voice inflection in an authoritive, final-sounding statement that is not to be questioned or disputed. Women gain feminine social approval with an upward final voice inflection -- which sounds very feminine.
You can have a knockout model's body, but if your voice sounds like a super masculine truck driver in my opinion you are much less likely to be viewed as a lady.
WALK --- Women walk much differently from men. It isn't just our high heels, although high heels certainly accentuate the differences. Woman usually walk in a straight line by placing one foot directly in front of the other while walking in an imaginary straight line. Men usually walk with feet spaced horizontally a couple of feet apart. This is a drastic difference. A masculine walk will really hurt your chances of being accepted as a woman.
More extreme is the pageant/model/runway walk, in which I have received extensive professional training for television. In this case, you have to cross your left foot far to the the right of the imaginary straight line in front of you and your right foot far to the left of the imaginary line in front of you as you walk extra sexily. This results in your butt and hips swinging in an extra sexy way that is likely to attract a lot of male attention.
For most everyday situations, I don't recommend the model runway walk. Maybe while on a hot date or clubbing might be an exception. Usually I recommend just going with a normal feminine one-foot-directly-in-front-of-the-other as you walk in an imaginary straight line.
Head straight -- imagine you are balancing books on top of your head. This was part of my model training but you can apply the same idea to everyday feminine walk in my opinion. Shoulders square with good posture as you walk -- no shoulder slouching as men often do -- and thrust your boobies out somewhat. Believe me -- this works and for me it makes me feel super sexy and feminine as I walk down the street.
EYEBROWS -- Super important. Get those bushy masculine eyebrows trimmed professionally every 7 to 14 days in a beauty salon as I do. Bushy eyebrows look horrible on a lady. Just ask almost any good-looking feminine non-trans female if you want to confirm this. I feel sure they will duh-obvious agree with me on this.
BODY WAXING -- Men often have back hair. This looks totally horrible on a woman. Get a professiona back waxing. I get my back waxed professionally every 6 to 8 weeks or so, so that I look super feminine and I can pull off successfully sexy younger strappy dress as you can see in my profile photo.
If you have back hair correct this problem. For sure. Been there, done that. Do it fem fab -- GET RID OF THAT HAIRY BACK on a regular basis.
Here is my personal beauty salon waxing hair removal routine:
EYEBROWS -- Every 7 to 14 days without fail. More than 18 days and I look like a disaster.
BACK -- Every 6 to 8 weeks.
LOWER LEGS -- Every 3 to 4 weeks. Needs to include your feet.
UPPER LEGS -- Every 6 weeks.
CHEST/TUMMY/BOOBIE AREA -- Every 4 weeks.
BUTTOCKS --- Every 6 to 8 weeks.
NOSE/MUSTACHE/UPPER LIP --- Every 2 weeks without fail.
LOWER LIP --- Every 2 weeks.
ARMS --- Every 4 weeks. Including hands.
UNDERARMS --- Every 3 weeks or so. Underarm hair looks horrible on a woman. If you are wearing an open strappy dress as I often do, and you have to raise your arms -- um well it is nice to look fab fem isn't it ?
SITTING -- Women and men SIT totally differently. Men often sit with arms folded. Legs spread wide apart. If you are a woman, especially while wearing feminine stuff like skirts and shorter dresses, you need to protect your private parts and your panties from being seen.
Doesn't matter if you have had GRS vagina surgery or not. Protect your private parts from oggling eyes. Keep you legs CLOSED as you sit. Really important. Or cross your legs as most non-trans women do part of the time. Cross your legs in a natural feminine manner. Watch non-trans ladies, how they do it. Emulate them -- they've done it all their lives since pre-puberty.
Feminine-looking non-trans women sit with legs wide apart to indicate openness for a sexual encounter. If you WANT to invite a sexual encounter or be approached for that -- well, have at it honey ! But you know most of the time in normal daily life we aren't trying to overtly invite sexual approaches to us -- so -- and even more true the more attractive you are and/or young or youthful-appearing you are -- avoid sitting with your legs wide apart. You are a woman now, not a man.
Clasping your hands together in a feminine manner as you laugh and smile in a sit-down conversation makes you appear very feminine as well.
SMILE -- Women smile a LOT more than men, on average. Especially you should be smiling at other women as you pass them sometimes in a shopping center, in a waiting room, and so on. Not a smile at every single women -- but certainly MUCH more frequently than you used to before you transitioned to womanhood.
Be careful about smiling at men -- but this varies by language and country. In many countries, when a woman smiles at a man who is a stranger this means she is open to a romantic/sexual encounter with him. So, be careful with this one -- particularly as HRT female hormone treatments start to give you boobies and soft skin and otherwise become attractive to men. Even if you are lesbian this applies -- because a beautiful lesbian trans girl usually attracts plenty of (unwanted) male attention because mother nature has made men this way. If you are a hetero or bi trans lady, and you see a hot guy, yes sure go for it honey -- bring on your brightest smile at a man you would like to have approach you romantically or sexually.
I now SMILE regularly at women and they smile back. Sometimes they initiate the smile, and I smile back. This is a normal female to female social custom in many languages and cultures, and simply means you are femininely acknowledging the presence of a fellow female. It is totally non-sexual -- if you do it in this way.
I will add more later. This is by no means a complete guide obviously, but it will make me feel good if I help only ONE person feel fem fab here.
Lovingly,
Jennifer xx
After I get my boob job to DD or DDD boobs from my current natural B cup boobies, I will launch THE JENNIFER SHOW via podcast and/or youtube and/or other places online. Part of THE JENNIFER SHOW will include topics such as I have written about in this article. xx
