Monogomous or Polyamorous?

[Kylo]

Monogamous.

There's no way my brain could deal with the idea of being that close to more than one person at a time. I put a lot of investment into friendships and even more into relationships; I don't form casual bonds and that energy and investment required for them is finite.

[KathyLauren]

I can't imagine myself with more than one partner at a time.  I'm definitely a one-woman girl. 

[alex10]

Ive never really thought about it before, i've just always assumed any relationship I might have would be monogomous as thats kind of the norm. I think id give it a go if I had a partner who wanted that

[Platzhalter]

Open to polyarmory but in a monogamous relationship - the thing is that I (and probably my partner as well) consider honesty very important and therefore would prefer polyarmory to cheating... because sooner or later, you/your partner will find out.

[Steph Eigen]

100% monogamous

[KarlMars]

Open to polyarmory but in a monogamous relationship - the thing is that I (and probably my partner as well) consider honesty very important and therefore would prefer polyarmory to cheating... because sooner or later, you/your partner will find out.

That's a good idea. If your partner knows and approves it's not cheating.

[Megan.]

Monogamy for me.

[totalmessbelow]

Mono. I don't think I could bare the thought of my girlfriend being affectionate with someone else. Similarly I can't bare the thought of possibly hurting her by being affectionate with somebody else.

[Tessa James]

Been there as both and recognize significantly more effort seems needed to keep multiple people happy with each other.  In theory, and in my fantasies, everything can work out just dandy.  IRL people say and do the most unexpected things sometime and logistical issues add more to the likelihood of a poly relationship being shorter term.

It is wonderful to have the freedom to even consider the options eh? 

[prettyboy]

My partner and I are both poly; we're free to date other people outside of our primary relationship and if the right person ever came along, we'd be open to dating as part of a triad.   Speaking solely for myself, I consider being poly as part of my orientation - I could be monogamous, but it would feel unnatural and forced to me.   I don't think one or the other is better/right - people are just wired differently.

[KarlMars]

My partner and I are both poly; we're free to date other people outside of our primary relationship and if the right person ever came along, we'd be open to dating as part of a triad.   Speaking solely for myself, I consider being poly as part of my orientation - I could be monogamous, but it would feel unnatural and forced to me.   I don't think one or the other is better/right - people are just wired differently.

It would feel forced to me.

[Nathanos]

It's a monogamous life for me. I get very invested in my partner when I finally settle into a relationship, so I don't feel I'd be able to equally share myself with anyone else. I'd be afraid of unintentionally showing favoritism and making one of my partners feel slighted. I fully support those who are polyamorous and make it work, though, props to you.

[Dee Marshall]

It would feel forced to me.

And that is exactly the point. For monogamous people poly feels forced. For polyamorous people mono feels forced. It's as biological as trans or gay. Neither is right or wrong. It's only tragic when a poly person end up with a mono person.

Dee
(Already lived THAT tragedy!)

[Lady_Oracle]

But unfortunately most of society has been forced into the ways of monogamy without ever knowing there's another option all together. Also poly relationships have a habit of not always working out due to societal pressures placed on us and how difficult it can be navigating this hetero/mono world we live in.

[Dee Marshall]

Yes, exactly, Lady Oracle. How very like being trans (or gay) it is.

[eyesk8rboi]

I'm totally chill with other people being poly, but I just couldn't do it, personally. 

[Rachel_Christina]

I would never want to be with two people at the one time, and nor would I accept a partner doing it too.
I couldn't do it

[ainsley]

Monogomous or Polyamorous?

So, shouldn't this question be asking mono-amorous instead of monogamous?  One is sex with one person, the other is the state or custom of being married to one person at a time. 

Despite the answer to the above:  I am monogamous.

[Devlyn]

I go solo.

[undautri]

As horrible as it sounds, I'd probably be Ok with being with multiple people, but I couldn't stand either one of my partners being with someone else. I'm a very insecure person, and very jealous.
for that reason I selected "monogamous" because I would hate to put that double standard into practice. it wouldn't be fair. And probably wouldn't be possible, I find it hard enough to find someone as it is.