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Amy:
There are constants of the procedure regardless of where you go. There are many threads of others here at Susan's who have gone to one place or another - their combined wisdom can help you.
One of your concerns seems to be post-op constipation. Most all surgeons require a pre-op cleanse at least a day or two before your big day. Post-op, start foods slowly. You might be given soup in-patient. Limit yourself to fruits and vegetables otherwise until you are doing normal again.
Also, drink plenty of water - pre-op and post-op. Water will keep your system cleaned. If you have a bladder bag, you'll know when your body is ready to progress when it wants to go on its own and no longer depend on the bag. That is when your nurse will remove it.
You found what lube works for you; you'll adjust to the amount that works for you. Generally, if you have the set of four, you can get one week from one 4 ounce or 5 ounce tube when you are doing all four appliances. You know you are using too little if it gets tight; too much if you dribble.
Now is the time to learn relaxation techniques to achieve depth. Insertion should feel normal - no pains. If you experience any discomfort that does not feel normal, report to your doctor for an examination.
Surgeons usually direct you to a 'do not touch' at certain post-op sites. Look, but do not touch. Wait for your 3-months, 6-months, or 12-months examinations, whichever your surgeon advises.
Rather than blow money on packs of bed pads, you can use an old towel; rinse it out after using it.
Many people recognize their new need of a bidet. You can install a line from your hot water at the sink. You can find an extension hose that connects to your shower. Or go low-tech and fill a 2-liter soda bottle to keep at the ready - always comfortable at room temperature.
Walking and exercise are good - follow doctor's orders. Too much activity can damage your surgery or delay healing.
Some people report total post-op agony while others take in the breeze. You'll know your body's responce when you'll know. Report this to your doctors so they know where you are.
If you are healthy pre-op, if you have been exercising and getting your body ready, then you will do quite well through surgery and post-op.
Most of all, commit this to memory - it is a once in your life experience. Keep a diary - whether written, spoken, or video.
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