hello bad kitty,
you have had more time since your surgery than i have, so i don't know if that could potentially happen to me, too. i am at the two year mark, and i think that is around the time where you were at when you met your boyfriend. i am in the beginning of a new relationship myself.
post-op sex isn't as good as i had hoped it would be. i do orgasm, but not always. he has to be gentle, especially at first, and help me make it happen. obviously, if you don't orgasm after getting worked up sexually it can be a bit of a letdown, although even when that does happen i still must admit that i enjoy the act. i like the closeness and i love being female.
i am double your age, and my sex drive should be quite a bit lower than you own. really, for all i know your sex drive could be three times as much as my own. when you say your drive has decreased, to what extent do you mean? do you want to be with him once a week? three times a week? or is it less than that? right now, i am feeling passionate at least three times a week. a lot of it has to do with working myself into a sexy mood. i might watch porn before he comes over, kind of to set the mood. when a guy is all turned on, that is another big mood enhancer. maybe it would help you if you kind of psych yourself into the mood. anything can get mundane and repetitious if you don't spice it up a bit. if you ate your favorite dish 7 days in a row, it would lose its appeal. i think that can happen with sex, too. have you tried experimenting a little with different fantasies? you don't have to get all kinky - a little bit of spice can make a lot of difference.
i have a lot of gg friends my age who have a lower sex drive than i do. my niece and her friends (who are about your age) think about sex a lot (or at least talk about it), but once they are in a relationship they don't have sex any more than i do. my niece was with a guy for a year and only had sex with him maybe once a week. she broke up with him shortly afterward. what do your friends say? you probably should just talk to your gg friends your own age. post op and surgery kind of complicates the issue - you don't know about the results of anyone elses surgery. if your sex drive is a lot lower than theirs (and i mean someone in a relationship for awhile) you might want to compare notes and find out what they are doing differently from you. you are just a girl like they are, after all.
i know i had more questions than answers - i'm sorry i wasn't much help. i don't really think that your sex drive is being affected physically, though - at least i hope not - but it won't hurt to get bloodwork done checking all the hormone levels. if your boy friend thinks about having sex with you a lot, take it as a compliment. there are all kinds of ways to help him out! LOL that can be fun all by itself, as long as you are not feeling like you are just being used. i wish you a long and happy life and sex life...hugz back!
