Stephanie,
I'm post op and have been asked that question too. Most people who know me, know that I'm married still, to a woman, and they call her my partner as I do. If someone asks about my husband, like what does he do, I will then answer, my partner is a Human Resource person for Kroger foods. They can think that I'm lesbian and in a lesbian relationship or find out later from the people I work with or just look around. I'm totally out and everyone, I think, in town knows me. This is why I like not being in the closet or being stealth, no lies. I can be myself.
Sheila