I have some scars, but they can be hidden in the pubic hair - which however means I cannot shave all of it, so I just shorten it and shape it. Lubrication is an issue - I tried faking it, but its not really working - basically it means going to the bathroom and apply lube inside somehow and that is a break that is odd. So I guess one has to admit that one has an issue with dryness of the vagina and openly use lube.
One thing that I notice as a big difference between natrual and reconstructed vulva is the clitoris area and no surgeon can really get this 100% right, although the best ones can get a good approximation of it. The differenc eis only noticeable if you know what to look for and that is the inner labia which are connected to the clitoris from the bottom, so the Whole thing looks like an upsidedown V with the clitoris being the tip of the V. In reconstructed vulvae, the clitoris often is more like a dot sitting not right at the Tip of that V but a bit above or below and not directly connected to the V as it is "normal". Its a slight difference but I saw this in most cases or reconstructions so far. I think Suporn and some other high class surgeons can approximate this better than others.
Most men will not know this and even doctors will probably not really know this, but I think some do at least sense that something undefineable is different. Another biggie is, if a GRS surgeon cannot do a proper clitoral hood. Its something that all vulvae have, at least in a rudimentary state, unless they are circumcised. Older GRS techniques did not have inner labia or a clitoral hood at all and this looks "odd" to some men, as I described in my experience above.
