Would you take this as a compliment?

[alex82]

Would u take it as a compliment If someone told you "your beautiful and don't let anyone tell you different". A security guy at a bar who was walking around n saw me told me that.  Wen guys tell me that it honestly makes me feel ugly.

No. It's unsolicited and it's qualified. Compliments are hopefully always the first, but never also the latter.

[alex82]

Perhaps because he could sense a lack of confidence?

And as a security guard in a bar, his job is to watch the doors and check for trouble, not to seek out flagging confidence among the customers. Who may well have simply gone for a quiet drink about their flagging confidence, or not. None of a bouncers business.

[alex82]

To me, it sounds like a poorly veiled attempt at hitting on you by manipulating your sense of confidence. I doubt it was an issue with your beauty.

And guys telling me to smile? Yeah that misogynistic expression i definitely hate. We don't need to smile to please anyone.

I agree. It's manipulative by undermining. Therefore not complentary. And a decent enough warning that this is not the sort of person you want to hang around with to hear any more complements from.

As for 'cheer up love, it might never happen' - well, if you're that interested and you'd like to hear what has happened, we can talk. Otherwise, shut up and let my facial expression fall however it falls please.

[Nahia]

When I was in the army some of the guys were talking about a book called "The Game" I think. Its basically a book about hooking up with chicks, but one of the methods was called using "Negs" or something. Basically its a compliment with criticism attached too it. Supposedly it attracts women. Maybe it was that kind of thing?

[kittenpower]

When I was in the army some of the guys were talking about a book called "The Game" I think. Its basically a book about hooking up with chicks, but one of the methods was called using "Negs" or something. Basically its a compliment with criticism attached too it. Supposedly it attracts women. Maybe it was that kind of thing?

Lol, like Tom Cruise's character in Magnolia.

[swatch]

"You're beautiful". That is fine.
"Don't let anyone tell you different". Like it's really not obvious, or subject to debate. To me it ruins any compliment