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where has the majority of support for your transition come from

Started by stephaniec, September 28, 2016, 08:42:13 PM

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where has most of your support come from

family
3 (7.5%)
friends
2 (5%)
doctors
0 (0%)
therapists
5 (12.5%)
significant others
3 (7.5%)
other
0 (0%)
yourself
11 (27.5%)
more than one of above
16 (40%)

Total Members Voted: 40

stephaniec

my support comes from my therapist of 3 years. She has been with me from day one. I have a sister ans a niece , but the only contact I have is through Facebook and to be honest it's pretty minor almost to the point of being superficial .
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Michelle_P

My support definitely comes from my therapist, and a bit from folks in the support group.  This board and everyone here is a strong runner-up.  I get more support by far from my electrolyst on our weekly sessions than from my family and their "Don't ask, don't tell, and never ever show HER around here" policy.

Electrolysis tomorrow morning! My last chance this week to present in line with my identity, then it's male drag for family events all weekend. :P
Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.

My personal transition path included medical changes.  The path others take may require no medical intervention, or different care.  We each find our own path. I provide these dates for the curious.
Electrolysis - Hours in The Chair: 238 (8.5 were preparing for GCS, five clearings); On estradiol patch June 2016; Full-time Oct 22, 2016; GCS Oct 20, 2017; FFS Aug 28, 2018; Stage 2 labiaplasty revision and BA Feb 26, 2019
Michelle's personal blog and biography
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RobynD

Therapists, wife and children - My wife would have had a harder time coming to the support without the help of therapists, but she has been of course daily help ( and not costing $120/hr always is a good thing too  ;D) Kids were pretty much on board from the time i disclosed my plans.


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stephaniec

In one sense I don't  consider cost with my therapist because its through Medicare and I don't pay anything so for me she is an important friend.
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j-unique

Therapist, partner :-*, books (like the Transgender Guidebook), Internet ;D
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stephaniec

I must confess Susan's has helped me  through this process  .
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JS UK

My GP has been absolutely amazing, she's the most fantastic, helpful, supportive, understanding woman on earth. She's more like a sister than my doctor.

My yoga teacher has also been absolutely fantastic. She persuaded me to transition and has been a great support through some really difficult times. She's like the aunt I never had.

My voice therapist, counsellor, electrologist and the friends who I've told so far have also been a great help, as has Susan's Place.

Parents have been much less than helpful, trying at every opportunity to make my transition as difficult as possible. I rarely speak with them now.

My local gender identity clinic has been of slightly more use than a chocolate fireguard. The woman who saw me on intake was fine but apart from that, they're not interested.

Jx
If you want to walk on water you've got to get out of the boat!
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roseyfox

Myself most everyone in my life was disproving of it. But i don't care about there feelings on it. Considering to them i am just an embarrassment. I had some support from friends. But it was mostly i gave up one day on trying to please or impress people. Conformity is so depressing.

So after several idiot therapist. I finally found a doctor. Got hormones and family currently avoids me.
I rather not
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KathyLauren

My therapist, my spouse, my support group, and last but definitely not least, the good people here on Susan's Place.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Harley Quinn

At what point did my life go Looney Tunes? How did it happen? Who's to blame?... Batman, that's who. Batman! It's always been Batman! Ruining my life, spoiling my fun! >:-)
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kaitylynn

All of the above really.  My SO has been my biggest cheer leader and shoulder.  Therapist and support group (IRL) has played a significant role.  My doctors have been very supportive and helpful where they can.  Friends that are sticking by my side, birth and adopted family...in the end, it is the internal perseverance and will to live is where the bulk of the support it.

Overall, the Myself option is the most practical, but I recognize that without the others...it will all be for naught.
Katherine Lynn M.

You've got a light that always guides you.
You speak of hope and change as something good.
Live your truth and know you're not alone.

The restart - 20-Oct-2015
Legal name and gender change affirmed - 27-Sep-2016
Breast Augmentation (Dr. Gupta) - 27-Aug-2018
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Wednesday

"Witches were a bit like cats" - Terry Pratchett
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Elora

I'm usually pretty intuitive when it comes to human behavior, but I was dead wrong about who was going to back me on this.  The supposed love of my life washed her hands of me immediately, but my father and stepmother have been 100% supportive from day one--life is very strange.

Elora
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Rachel

Therapist, PCP, group, trainer, brother (deceased) and sister, work and fiends have helped me significantly. My boss was a hindrance.

My wife and daughter want no parts and were a hindrance (being nice).
HRT  5-28-2013
FT   11-13-2015
FFS   9-16-2016 -Spiegel
GCS 11-15-2016 - McGinn
Hair Grafts 3-20-2017 - Cooley
Voice therapy start 3-2017 - Reene Blaker
Labiaplasty 5-15-2017 - McGinn
BA 7-12-2017 - McGinn
Hair grafts 9-25-2017 Dr.Cooley
Sataloff Cricothyroid subluxation and trachea shave12-11-2017
Dr. McGinn labiaplasty, hood repair, scar removal, graph repair and bottom of  vagina finished. urethra repositioned. 4-4-2018
Dr. Sataloff Glottoplasty 5-14-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal in office procedure 10-22-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal revision 2 4-3-2019 Bottom of vagina closed off, fat injected into the labia and urethra repositioned.
Dr. Thomas in 2020 FEMLAR
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Aria94

Majority of support for my transition has been from within myself. When you can't see yourself being anything but the woman you are, that's all you really can do. I don't have the option to be anything else, being a girl is all I know. I transitioned when I was 15 and have always been girly. The other support I have is my family. I'm the youngest of 5 , one older brother and the rest of us are girls. My eldest sister has been my rock and she's always been the one to get everyone in check on my  name and pronouns and I never really had to come out as trans because  my sister beat me to it lol. I didn't have to have a deep talk with anyone. Also my dad was the first person to label me as trans and he was the first one to embrace it even when I didn't even know what trans was. My daddy died last week and it's been taking a toll on me because he was my biggest supporter and I also have srs with Chettawut in November and it's going to be really hard without my dad
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stephaniec

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haeden

I guess myself. The "friend" I did tell doesn't see me as a dude and doesn't respect me as one.
My mom actually has said she is happy as long as I am happy but we don't talk about feelings and sentimental stuff so we never talk about my transition past the point of planning for surgery.
So I would say I am my support system because I only really talk about me being trans to myself and I hardly do that lol

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Aria94

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Wanda Jane

I have had amazing support. I get a lot from my local trans support group, San Antonio Gender Association. My best support though is from my AA group. They have been amazing. I came out in AA and they haven't blinked. The cis girls have welcomed me and invite me out to girls nights. They give me makeup and tips. I haven't really started transitioning yet so this is huge from them. They guys too don't question me about it and just accept it. I will go to meetings with clear coated shiny nails, eye makeup and lip gloss. No one says a thing. It has let me become comfortable with myself as well as practice with not killing my nails or smearing my makeup. I guess it is a small reward for suffering through 40 years of alcoholism and being closeted. My wife, waiting on paperwork to be ex, on the other had treats me pretty bad. She says it is a choice, I ruined her life, I'm going to hell, she doesn't "believe in it", etc. I am hoping to be able to be out of our house by Jan. My life away from the house keeps me sane though. Good topic.
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jentay1367

Support is a slippery slope....are others cheerleading us into our transition? That's not good. Speshully not if you're a people pleaser,  and many of us are. Ultimately, I think if you're being objective, the only one that should motivate you towards any transition, should be yourself. In the final analysis, only you get to live in the skin you're in. You gotta  :police: your own brain or you may end up prodded into the biggest mistake of your existence.
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