Aw, shucks... [emoji4] Flattery will get you anywhere.
Rachel Lynn's long running thread was really helpful to me, seeing just what the experience of someone ahead of me was in dealing with relationships, life, and such. I'm just trying to pay it forward, recording how my life is progressing in detail, against the broad canvas of transition. I don't think of myself as strong, as much as obstinate, very stubborn and persistant.
Speaking of which... Now that I switched primary care docs at Kaiser to an LGBT-friendly doctor, I sent the doctor a message inquiring about having Kaiser's Multi-Specialty Transitions center re-evaluate my eligibility for electrolysis coverage. The doctor contacted MST, and a few hours later MST sent me a message that a dermatologist was assigned and would be in touch in a few days. Progress! Just keep poking until a pathway appears...
Outside the lawyer's office, my wife handed me a letter from the therapist, addressed to "Michelle P..." at my old address, the ex's residence. She had opened it. Naturally... Her only comment was that I needed to have my mail sent to my place. The letter was just an appointment reminder, rate schedule, and the usual therapist agreement.
Oh, just wait til she gets wind of the name and gender change! What? I haven't told her yet? Yeah, that would be terrible for a spouse to do. For someone who was tossed out, and told by my spouse that she couldn't have anything to do with this trans stuff, not so much. She made it none of her business.
The legal meeting with my ex and the lawyer went exactly as expected. The lawyer wanted to know how I came up with the percentages (he kept calling them percentiles [emoji849]) to divide the assets that were not explicitly divided. I started to explain. that there were just two simple linear equations describing the variables, and I solved for the intesection. He wanted to hear none of that. So, he decided to 'check' my work, writing his own spreadsheet to add up the figures and see if he got the same sums. One of the panels in my Numbers spreadsheet did this as a check. So, he billed us for 1.5 hours while he putzed around with writing a 3 column 12 row Excel spreadsheet. And he still got the answer wrong, courtesy of bad rounding. At least we all finally agreed on a division percentage for unassigned assets after 2 hours.
Then he asked about support payments. Did either of us want them. I said that I did not intend to ask for alimony payments. [emoji8] I haven't had a paycheck in 9 years. My wife was working last year, bringing in a small amount from a part time job. She decided she didn't want to ask for payments either. A wise choice...
I was late to the pre-meeting pizza dinner due to terrible traffic abd nasty weather, but a couple folks offered me extra slices from their take-home pizza so I wouldn't be sitting around for 30 minutes waiting. Then, off to chair the meeting. We had a poor turnout, only 17 members due to terrible weather. We got most of the way through the meeting when there was an emergency activation, courtesy of flooding, that a couple of folks would have to roll on. I finished up, and we all went home or to activation points. Yuck.
No issues about my presentation at the meeting. My treasurer, at 71 years old, still keeps accidentally 'Sir'ing me, which I poke fun at immediately. When the "She/Her/Hers" buttons arrive, I'll keep them in my pocket, and each time I get misgendered, I'll pull one out and pin it on. Subtle passive-aggressive hinting....
I don't have much of anything beyond Costco and Trader Joe's grocerry runs to do Wednesday. There's a UU class Thursday evening, and then Friday, Happy Fun Time at Superior Court and the Social Security Administration. Oh boy. At least the result should be good.
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