Not transgender when drunk?

[FuschiaLipstick]

Wheb I'm drunk I don't care what I'm refered to as and have no composure etc sober I feel scared of the world seeing me as a girl because I feel like someone will know I'm not a woman and abuse me for it even though iv always been well me I feel embarrassed to state I'm a woman it doesn't feel like I'm being same or being laughable .. I sometimes still want gay men to like me ? Does that make no sense or is everyone like that if I slept with someone who seen me as a woman I wouldn't be into using my penis in much ways but with someone who seen me as gay I wouldn't be uncomfortable but I want to transition and have went back and forth on this but I feel like I may feel panic as a case of " what if this is a mistake" I don't get out of the house much at all.. don't want to delay transition any longer I wanted to do hrt then SRS at the end but I'm in need of a therapist I think

[LizK]

I think we could both agree that what you are feeling when you are drunk is mainly masked by the Alcohol. Your inhibitions are down and you may well be doing something you really are not the keen on once you are sober. Being trans is tough enough being trans and drunk would be way, way, harder. Being trans does not go away when you are drunk it is just far easier to deny it.

Liz

[SailorMars1994]

Yurp, drinking masks it all and is th eonly real time manhood didnt bother me.. once sober i was hurting even worse when male-ing

[Wanda Jane]

Yeah, I can relate. I stayed drunk for forty years and was able to keep Wanda in the closet. She would pop out once in a while but I could always drink her away. My joke with my close friends is that any time Wanda poked her head out of the closet I'd grab her by the ponytail, pour Vodka down her throat and throw her back in. Now that I'm sober she ain't going back in and I'm happier and freer than I've ever been. I can walk around town in "hybrid" mode and don't care what anyone thinks. I'm grateful for everything I've been through to get me to this point. Surrounding myself with other sober people, other trans people and especially sober trans people helps a lot. I was only as sick, and I was sick, as my secrets. Talking helps more than anything. Having people to talk to honestly takes the power out of my fears.

[Michelle_P]

There's a reason so many transgender persons were found to be substance abusers.  Both suicide attempts and substance abuse, including alcoholism, occur at much higher rates in the transgender community than in the general population.  This is sometimes referred to as "self-medication", not the DIY HRT, but the attempt to numb the dysphoria with drugs including alcohol.

You are unlikely to stop being transgender while drunk.  You've just managed to shut down enough of your brain that the dysphoria can't get through the alcohol haze.  This is not recommended as a permanent state!


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[zamber74]

I just get really reflective while intoxicated, it also opens me up and I like to talk.  It doesn't remove any feeling of who I am, although I might say or do things I will regret later on.  I think one of the reasons I love to have a drink, is it relaxes me so much and I am free to let my emotions out (some of my forum posts reflect that).  The bad thing, is sometimes I go overboard and most people really do not want to hear all of that stuff.  It doesn't make me feel like a man, it doesn't really make me feel like a woman either.  I just become more open, emotional, and passionate about life.

I don't drink to cope, never have and never will.  It doesn't fix problems, it doesn't cover them up, and hangovers are absolutely the worst.