Need some advice!

[JustSomeOne]

Hey,

I'm currently a 26 years old male, turning 27 in two months.
I've been pretty confused about my identity for pretty much my entire life.
Secretly trying out women's clothes. Or at the age of 20 I even had a period that I would go buy women's cloth with a girlfriend, and even publicy wear them...and play around with make-up.

Back then when I was 20 I also had a meeting sheduled after a long waitinglist with a team that specializes in transgender cases.
However, my parents didn't support me, and other weird experiences, like getting strange looks or remarks..I chickened out.

Now 6 year laters, after having mainly only focused on getting a job without a degree, and finally getting hired and being in the amazing position to travel the world and do research at the very highest level. These things from 6 years ago are bubbling up again.

I somewhere just have this idea, my body is my own, and life is already really short, what if I want to take hormones and become a more female version of myself? I don't see myself becoming entirely female, but it would be nice to just have a more female-ish body. To feel more like the real me.

I've talked about this with a friend, my first thought was "I need to make a new appointment and start hormones before I'm to old!". I'll be leaving my parents house in the coming months now that I finally have a job and my friend suggested to take it slow, move out first, experiment, and then make an appointment and take hormones if I still really want that.

My biggest fear is simply, I'll be 27 soon, in my country there is only really one "team" doing transgender cases, and they often have waiting list that can take over 6 months... + they don't prescribe hormones after atleast 6-12 months of therapie and talks. So I would be 28-29 by the time I can take them...!

What should I do? Take it slow, explore my newfound freedom, experiment with my identity... or try to get that appointment as soon as possible and start hormones asap?

Thank you!

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. You are asking a question that's impossible for us to answer. Some people desire to start a family before transitioning while other can't wait. In my case, I was ready in my  early teens but wasn't able to make the medical connections until I was about 25 years old. You have to ask your self what is most important to you and can you strike a balance between the two. Often it's possible to do both at the same time so you should consider that option as well.

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[AnonyMs]

My biggest fear is simply, I'll be 27 soon, in my country there is only really one "team" doing transgender cases, and they often have waiting list that can take over 6 months... + they don't prescribe hormones after atleast 6-12 months of therapie and talks. So I would be 28-29 by the time I can take them...!

What should I do? Take it slow, explore my newfound freedom, experiment with my identity... or try to get that appointment as soon as possible and start hormones asap?

It sounds like you can go slow and go "fast" at the same time. I'd do what you have to to get the HRT and in the mean time explore. Just don't tell the transgender team that you're still exploring, say you're certain.

If you're still uncertain by the time you have HRT in your hands then just don't take it. Better than the other way around.

[JustSomeOne]

Hey! Thank you!

I've contacted them for a new consultation.. I know that this has been playing a role my entire life, and at very least I should be brave enough to take these first steps!

Just a little worried about my job should I proceed with hormones...maybe I can pretend to still be a guy or something! hah! . The differences between genders is just mostly stupid labels made up by society anyway.

I am absolutely certain that if "society" was out of the equation that I would want a more female body. Its just those other factors that make everything really complicated...!

[Lunacorn]

I didnt catch your area of the world and dont need to know however id check out civil rights in your state/province/country.  Depending it can mean you have every right to express how you wish or it could mean you would lose your job.  Just being real so definitly check it out and if you have the right to exist as you are I say just find your way into the swimming pool and explore.  I used to cross dress as a youngster thinking that was my answer till i started hormones and realized more ... someday I will find new answers and new waters to tread.  Its all about safety and honesty with self to me.  Though I cannot speak for you just figured I'd toss my hat into the convo

[Ubiq]

I second what was being said here, and would advise you to look into the exact laws and formal/informal social laws and norms surrounding non-binary people. I know quite a few people that moved out of their home country to pursue transitioning elsewhere with less stringent laws, more social acceptance, and away from their known social circle so they can start over fresh.

[Tessa James]

I like your sense of self ownership JS One.  Nice to hear that you have come out to a supportive? friend too.  It's never too late to be yourself and you have a lot to look forward to.  Non binary presentations and transitions are certainly becoming more common and individualized, especially among young people like yourself.  Our creativity and imagination can allow us to dream of a better way to live eh?

Welcome to the Place to share it all.

[Satinjoy]

You can do the hormones, live the life, and still present in business in ways they expect, usually.   Depends on what you grow, I grew a nice pair of 36A's which is perfect for the androgyne business life I lead, and I wear loose shirts.

We have a lot of flexibility, but hormones are a big move and a big choice.

Therapy should help you pin it down.  Its early, I am sure you will do just fine.

Nice thread here.

Satinjoy