Monmouth/Ocean PFLAG has an open group meeting in Shrewsberry on I think the 2nd Monday of the month at 7:00. They also have one further south in Tom's River or something like that at a different time. Jersey Pride in Highland Park (across the river from New Brunswick) should be easy to hit for you too. I've been to both but not often due to family/time constraints. I like the PFLAG one a tad more because in a small way I feel I am helping others more. (I know I am a lost cause)
If you are looking for a gender therapist, I see Donna Klien who has an office in Eatontown. She was with IPG (Institute for Personal Growth) which focuses on trans and LGB clients (also out of Highland Park). THeir website is pretty good for resources and info in the NJ/NYC area