Quote from: HappyMoni on April 30, 2017, 05:06:04 PM
To my friend with the two or three names,
I have an analogy that may give a helpful perspective, emphasis on 'may.' You are a computer repair person by trade correct? (Sorry don't know the exact title of your job) After all the years doing your job it has become part of who you are. You might introduce yourself as a 'computer repair person." You know how it feels to do that job every day, all the in's and out's. You are probably comfortable saying you are a computer repair person. Now think back to the first day on the job. You haven't lived that life yet, had all those experiences of repairing computers every day. You probably knew it was something that might be right for you, but there was maybe some doubt that it would work for you. Would you have been 100% comfortable saying' 'I'm a computer repair person' on your first day of the job? My guess is there was very little confidence at that point. Isn't it the same with saying you are a woman, feeling like a woman? You haven't had the experience of living as a woman yet. You haven't experienced the smell, the taste, the feel of being a woman. For some reason, you think you should feel that now. I have felt this very same thing. We have to let experience, let life play out a little for those feelings to settle in for us. Don't test your emotions on the first day on the job and expect to have the result be like you had worked it 30 years. It's a false test.
My thought would be that it is something okay to ask yourself, but I wouldn't let it stress you out or stop you doing what you feel would be right for you. It is definitely not a test to put yourself through.
Your friend,
Mon neeee
To my friend Mon neeee (someday may she learn how to pronounce her name properly),
You do realize Mon neeee it is hard to remember that many years ago and how that you kid felt. After all it has been well over 40 years ago now. I started to disagree with you and your analogy and disagreeing almost works.
That young kid went into the Navy with a goal in mind. He knew he was smart and he knew he wanted to be part of the future and the closest he figure he could get to being part of the future was to get into computers. He knew he wasn't a designer as he lacked the creativity need to do such things But he could think logically and problem solve. And he was right. He excelled in training and was one of the best in his class. He went to his ship confident that he could fix his equipment and he could. Some problems were hard be he didn't give up and he solved them even one that involved shipboard systems that discovered the problem lay in the wiring or a ship speed instrument that fed not only his equipment but also the ship fire control systems. But when he fixed the problem it threw off the missile guidance equipment and that was not a good thing. Some programmer had noted the problem when the fire control systems were installed and programed a fix instead of fixing the real problem. This meant the repair had to be undone as that solution was easier than reprogramming the fire control systems.
What I am saying here is the kid was smart and confident in his abilities to such a point that it doesn't fit your analogy Mon neeee. But them I remember oh about 4 years later when I got employment in the civilian world and then your analogy does fit.
After 7 weeks of training I was given the responsibility for maintaining 6 commercial sites
that had the system I had just been trained on. One of those I had been thrown out of with another technician the data processing manager did not like on my first visit to the site. The DP manager also was unhappy with to company I worked for at the time. I took me two full years to feel I could fix 90% of the problems with that system. I had a lot of help and became one of the better computer repair technicians in my region on the systems I got trained on.
So yes, Mon neeee, your analogy does work. And thank you for putting things in perspective for me. That is one of the special things about this place, there are so many people who help you look at a problem is so many ways. Each with their own perspective and solution. Each help in their own special way. Thank you.
I was going to give you credit Mon neeee, but then you had to mention it didn't you? lol makeup? what about makeup? I don't understand.
(((Hugs)))) and thanks Mon neeee
Laurie