Why Do I Need to Crossdress So Badly?

[JeanetteLW]

While I usually wore panties, sometimes a cami, even pantyhose about every day for a good part of my life, I never the less needed, what I called, my "escapes from maleness" on about a monthly basis when the GD got to me. High stress times also. I'd spend about the whole day presenting as female at home.

   Oh yes... I had my escapes from manhood and the stresses of it. May not have stayed sane w/o them. Except I would binge and abstain, binge and abstain.  Throw in a guilty purge occasionally.
     I am sane, aren't I? Well?

  Hugs,
    Jeanette

[davina61]

YES Jeannette (did I spell that correct MY dyslexia's showing ) sounds normal to me what ever normal is, I find the need every night now I am on my own so relaxing , big sigh of happiness

[Christine1]

We all have are escapes. I wish looking back I didn't purge and would've excepted myself! I wore everything from casual to slutty. Liked the stutty those days. Lol! Now I just want to be Me!  As hard as it is We all need to be us! I don't look at it as escaping manhood, just finally being Me or us.

Dress to impress yourself. Feel comfy with who U R.

I know I'm still working with that!

((Hugs)) girls

[AnneK]

I wear bra, pantyhose & nail polish daily.  In fact, I've worn pantyhose or stockings daily for most of my adult life.

[Debra]

It is interesting really. I feel like I was much more tied up in the clothing part of things pre-transition. Maybe because my body wasn't right so being able to 'present' as if my body was right by using clothing, makeup, hair/wigs, etc was helpful and felt good.

7 years later and with a more feminine body now, I still present very feminine in my clothing but I find I'm much less obsessed about it and I don't cling to it.

[Balerie]

I've been crossdressing for 50 years and I really wish I had started the journey sooner because unfortunately, no matter how much you think you can control this, you can't and it just gets worse. Living where it's almost always spring/summer and women are out and about in their dresses and shorts brings out the envy in me. I partly dress female but it's just jeans and panties for now. I really wish I could dress and be myself as opposed​ to the male role I have to play on a mostly daily basis.

I've been typecast in this TV drama for too many seasons. I want out!

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[vicki_sixx]

I have discovered I am a TG woman within the last year. I know that I am in the wrong body with the wrong anatomy. Can anyone explain to me why I have such a strong urge to crossdress? Aren't they just clothes? Does it matter what I look like on the outside if I accept that I identity as a woman on the inside?

Well everyone is different and some will simply be drawn to the wonderful clothes. Some will be drawn to the fact they can let go of their male identity and stop being so tough and grrr all the time. But in your case you have already answered your own question: you're in the wrong body and with the wrong anatomy, You do not identify as a boy but as a girl.

[karenk1959]

Thanks for all of your responses!

The good news is that I am both excited by and at peace with wearing lacy panties and pantyhose under my clothes and a lacy bra in private. Unfortunately, not ready to progress past this stage, but I'm not in a rush. I will take my time and for right now thoroughly enjoy my lingerie!

[AnneK]

You don't have to restrict yourself to wearing a bra in private.  Just get one that's not so noticeable under your shirts.  As you can see at the bottom of my post, I wear bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily.  Every day I put my bra and pantyhose on in the morning and take them off at night.  The only time I don't wear them is when I'm in the pool.

[Balerie]

Any recommendations for a big gal like me that doesn't want the back fat to make it obvious I'm wearing a bra?


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[AnneK]

Any recommendations for a big gal like me that doesn't want the back fat to make it obvious I'm wearing a bra?

Wear a loose shirt.

Incidentally, my bra is mentioned in this post.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,222354.msg1968763.html#msg1968763

BTW, that's not me in that picture. 

[theqnoumenon]

For me in this the thing is being comfortable with what you're wearing, clothes don't really have genders (well, it's obvious that at least socially they have genders), and if you feel happy wearing female clothes and it's more like you, then go for it!


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[davina61]

went to town this morning in jeans and a hoodie , make that ladies stretch jeans and ladies top and bra under a ladies hoodie but  wearing bomber jacket that's not gender specific . nails painted though . went to see mum and then kids came around nothing said. Still spent all day in female clothes its made me very happy

[RobynD]

There is no one style etc but it seems like the commonality here is the search for peace and usually the relief from GD. There are many days that i think about going more feminine but i always feel very comfortable in feminine casual.

Today is Monday the day i resolved to wear skirts and or dresses and since it is cool and rainy today, i wore a light sweater dress, boots and tights. I brought a cardigan along as well. To me that feels very dressed up and i found myself putting on more makeup than usual this morning to go with it.