Now I'm getting nervous

[MeTony]

Appintment on thursday. I am going to tell my psychologist I'm transgender. I should not be nervous. But I am. I don't know why.

The appointment was moved one week ahead. I was supposed to go last week. But I had my 5yo niece here.

Getting nervous. How do I avoid being a complete wreck when it is time?

[sammie83]

Remember, everything is confidential in there and of course they are a professional.

Besides, you're only really telling them who you are. Which is probably quite important to a therapist


Sammie
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[Asche]

Getting nervous. How do I avoid being a complete wreck when it is time?

When you figure out, let me know.  I've been a complete wreck for a year (ever since I started explicitly coming out.)

[JeanetteLW]

Hi Tonie,

 

Appintment on thursday. I am going to tell my psychologist I'm transgender. I should not be nervous. But I am. I don't know why.
Getting nervous. How do I avoid being a complete wreck when it is time?

  You do it like you are doing. You come here to Susan's and lean on us. Then when the time comes you are going to suit up, show up, and tell him/or her.  You'll just do it.

  I did the same thing. I gained support and strength through the good folks here and went to my doctor appointment. I was so nervous about telling someone I was trans and had started taking HRT meds on my own that when the nurse assistant asked if my medications had change I said yes but I'd rather tell the doctor about it. End of question.  When the doc came is and ask how I was doing I just told him everything straight out and we took it from there. In a very real way that marked the beginning of my transition.

  It will be fine, You will be fine. Just do it!!.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette
   There was no lomger any fear and it felt really good to get it out.

[MeTony]

Maybe the first time is the worst. I'll just tell her. She has known me for 10 years. Maybe not really known. maybe she won't be shocked at all. I don't think so. Thanky you.

Asche, I'll get back to you if I survive this and become cool. Haha

[JLT1]

Hi,

You decide to do it.

You hold that decision by looking forward to being yourself, being free on the chains.

You tell why you are a man.  (Not why you think you are.)

Do well and don't worry. 

Hugs

Jen

[AlyssaJ]

I don't have any magic answers, but what worked for me was I just walked in and blurted it out.  Didn't try to come up with some wordy way of presenting it or anything, I just came out and said, "I'm transgender".  I was nervous as heck but just blasting it out there made it quick and painless.  The second I said it, I felt sooooooo relieved.

[MeTony]

Thank you. I realized I already told my psychiatrist. That was not so bad. A bit calmer today.

[JLT1]

Way to go!

🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

Hugs

Jen

[MeTony]

Ok. So I told my psychologist. She said......... "I am not surprised. I have always seen you as a bit of both, more to the masculine end of the scale."

She told me to explore this further.

We talked about telling my husband. And it was suddenly so obvious. I am the same person wether I tell anyone or not. People still see me as a masculine person no matter if I am male or female. So what would change if I change my name? I would feel content. I would feel whole. But to others it's just a name change. I don't change in person.

We talked about boobs. I said I hate them. I was talking to a doctor 17 years ago about taking them off or atleast reducing their size.
My psychologist told me there is nothing stopping me to do that but myself.

Overall a very good meeting. When I'm ready I will give the trans evaluation team a call. She told me to think a bit more about this.