TRIGGER WARNING Frank moral defense of dressing as I please to feel as happy as I can as it's legal where I am and as an adult and recommendation that many others might increase their happiness similarly and speaking out against "dress-code" bullies. If such discussion is disturbing or triggering to you, please stop here and read no further. This constitutes fair warning I feel.
One fundamental source of happiness for me, Jennifer, as a beautiful and intelligent female model and trans female model, is that for some years now I have usually dressed as I please in private and in public. It is MY female body, and I may dress -- and in fact DO dress -- as I please, subject only that 1) it is LEGAL in whatever location I'm in at that moment and 2) if it's say an employment or work situation and dressing in a certain way makes a major different in MONEY or job longevity I sometimes make an exception. Other than that, I usually dress as I please.
Currently I dress sexy young like a 25 to 30 year old even though I am over 50 years old. I have a stunningly beautiful model's body so I can pull it off to a T. Mostly I currently get admiring looks from amazed men with frequent whistles and compliments such as "wow, baby" and "what's up, blondie ? " and "hey sexy girl what's up baby ? " or "what tits !!! " and so on in the language of whatever country I'm in -- when I'm in a non-English-speaking country this is how it is translated to English. I also get some jealous glances from some women who frequently look back and forth again and and again between my stunning big boobs and their own boobs. This makes me smile.
Earlier in my transition, in years past, I had one trans lady in her 50's -- my age too -- sternly warn me, "Dress your age ! " Since I was living with her at the time, I politely didn't say much but needless to say I extremely strongly disagreed with her. Some people in some cultures in some countries seem to have this rather intrusive idea -- intruding on MY happiness and the happiness of other girls who are free-spirited in how they dress in public. I consider this also to be a bullying form of age discrimination against me. I CAN DRESS TO ANY AGE I PLEASE BECAUSE I AM ADULT AND IT IS MY BODY NOT ANYONE ELSE'S BODY. Period !!! I strongly suggest that you, too, possess this same fundamental right as long as you are an adult and as long as it's legal in the place you are located at any given moment. This has monumentally increased my happiness in my life, and I submit this might work the same happiness wonders for YOU, too !
I also had a 20-something beautiful girl derisively ask me online, "Just how old ARE you, Jennifer ?" after I posted some tasteful photos but I was dressed as a typical 19 or 20 year old girl might usually dress. She succeeded at that time in her obvious bullying goal of derisively inducing me to remove my sexy young photos of my great body. And she succeeded in her obvious goal of derisively implying "I'm 20-something and I may dress sexy young, but you as a 50 + old lady sure the heck don't have that right ! " Again, age discrimination bullying plain and simple. That's rubbish, totally. NO ONE can any longer intimidate me or bully me into changing how I dress now. In the case of the 50-year-old other trans lady I was living, I feel this was simple and common female jealousy in play here -- common as can be but still morally reprehensible. I am jealous of no other female, but many females are apparently jealous of JENNIFER. I ended up moving out because in the end I strongly resisted her trying to impose on me how I dress sexy young, with MY body, during MY life, in public. Interesting sidenote: Very few men have tried to tell me I may not dress sexy young -- instead most men simply compliment me on my stunning looks. This sure brings me great happiness. I LOVE to please men as this brings me divine happiness.
So now I dress just as I please in public, in meetings, in shopping centers, at work. I am in a fortuitous work situation at the moment wherein I have liberty to wear sexy strappy blouses, short skirts, sexy bras showing plenty of my great cleavage, without risk of losing clients or friends. Not all of you will be in such a situation at work necessarily, but I submit to you that you might very well increase your own self-actualization and self-happiness by dressing as you please as much as you can "get away with." It sure fits the bill for JENNIFER !!!
Any polite rebuttals or contrary opinions are very welcome. If this thread gets me banned from this site, so what ? I live free and live my own happiness. I gave fair trigger warning as some people possibly may very strongly disagree with me on this issue. Since I gave a fair trigger warning, I feel I have met my moral obligations. And I might just have spurred on some girls/ladies/women who are currently living under "how-you-dress" bullying repression and inspired you to simply GO FOR IT, GIRLFRIEND, ON YOUR VERY OWN FEMININE HAPPINESS !!!
Adding one other comment on freedom from oppression and freedom of expression in dressing for non-binary and gender-fluid and gender-non-conforming people: Please don't let the binary-gender "dress code police" destroy YOUR happiness. If you want to dress half male and half female, simply DO IT and those who don't like it if you seek your own independence and sublime non-gender-conforming happiness in this way -- bullying naysayers to YOUR happiness can simply go find someone else to bully. Stand up for your own body and your own happiness if you are non-binary, gender fluid, or gender non-conforming. Peace. Out. Jennifer xx
