Quote from: jaybutterfly on April 15, 2017, 04:54:38 PM
Ok so Im on track with the UK gender services for a screening appointment next month in Leeds. Knowing Im going is helping a lot, and Im looking at options I can do to reduce dysphoria BEFORE considering hormones (for me, kids is a big thing, and im not dysphoric about my genitals, just pretty much everywhere else). Im looking at hair removal services for electrolysis and theres a lot near me. My facial hair is going to go, but I wanted to ask if you think my face looks 'too manly' to pass
Depends on the level of "passing" you desire.
Here's what I see. You have a short upper lip, which is great and very feminine, and nicely shaped lips. Your chin is fairly tapered. Can't tell about your jawline -- it might be heavy, or you might just need to lose some weight. Regardless, it's fairly neutral at this point. This is what you have going for you. On the other hand, your upper face is decidedly masculine -- the size of your nose (though it has a fairly neutral shape), and particularly your brow ridge.
Now, if you only need to pass for short engagements -- errands and the like -- you'll easily get by... once your facial hair is gone, your hair is grown out and put in a feminine hairstyle, your eyebrows are trimmed and shaped, and you've got some decent makeup on. No problem.
For things like parties and one-day events, the next most important thing will be your voice. Without a decent voice, you won't make through a single conversation without getting clocked. And in long-term situations -- like a job, or a relationship, where you're seeing the same people day in and day out -- I'd say you'll need FFS, for your forehead and nose at minimum.
More important, though, is to identify what it is that actually makes you dysphoric, and what kind of passing you need to address that. Is it just how you look to yourself, in the mirror? Or is there a social component, how other people gender you throughout your interactions?
