apologies for the dour intro

[chevalier-d-eon]

hello all.

those that know me well call me baph.  i am fine with most pronouns but no he/his/him. 

my intentions with joining this site are somewhat uncomplicated however unpleasant.

any and all other trans women i've known have been around as young as i am (22) and we always seem to die before living longer.  i have met a trans woman over the age of 25 in person twice, and those were invited speakers at my university and neither older than 30. 

the recurrence of this has definitely added a strong sense of doom or at least highly stacked odds to my existence than was already the case.  i have had no role models for being trans.  i was always the first out trans person, no matter where i went.  the additional sense of likely being murdered or committing suicide by 30 has not helped it very much! 

and so i what i need is not the potentiality that someone like myself can live beyond thirty, but the proof that it can be the case.  like, i obviously know that this can happen but i have seen literally no examples of this happening in my daily life and not even in the (millenial centric) social networks i'm involved in.  i do not see elder trans women around me.  in my daily life, i am the eldest.  in social groups i am involved in, i am getting closer to be there.

so, i'm here to see if i can redress that on some limited level, if only to quietly observe older trans women talking like...period.   

[V M]

Hi Baph 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

I'm 55 and my best friend in this world is a 64 year old cancer survivor

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V M

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Possibly I might fit the bill. I completed my transition at age 30 in 1982 and I am still on the correct side of the ground. I have now lived longer post surgical than I did pre surgical. I have fallen out of contact with the other members of my therapy group however through the one I still know of, there are about 4 that I can say for sure are still around.

As long as you do all the needed work in the transition, there is no reason why your life expectancy should be less than normal. In my case, the transition saved my life because the fact that I was so willing to give my life up forced me into the transition.

I am not alone or even part of a small crowd. Many of us just fade back into society rarely to be heard from again. For that matter, I did that as well but the desire for voice surgery, something that didn't exist when I transitioned brought me back into the community and once out it became difficult for me to fade away again.

[Georgette]

Welcome Chevalier d"Eon.

A possible relative of mine "d'Éon became a captain of dragoons under the maréchal de Broglie ", had ties to the original Chevalier.

I also was an early Transition at age 26 in 1977.  Other than my partner lost track of so many others over time.  Most others back than that I knew in the mid 70s were in their 30s-60s.

My partner and I faded into general society.  Her death brought me back out looking for others.  Have found two local that knew me from back then, and have now transition in the last 5 years.  Of course not that many from than, so hard to find others.  Made contact with a gal last year that transitioned around 1983 in her late 20s.

So it is possible to come out the other side of all this.