Changes are coming

[gwencook]

Hi sweeties,
It's been a very long time since I last posted on here but here's a quick run down on everything: I actually SEEN my mom for the first time in 4 years and im planning on moving into her's and living there. My father is still being cruel the vast majority of times no matter what I do.
So im leaving a week on Monday to go and live with my mom. Ive fully decided that. But here is my problem my mother doesnt even know im bisexual lets alone transsexual so I'm worried that she may reject me when she knows the truth. So should i wait for a bit before telling her or tell her straight from the start so that if she does reject me at least I haven't built both our hopes up of everything being ok if it turns out later to be not ok?
Also when i leave im planning on leaving a note for my dad telling him why I've left However I'm unsure if i should tell him the whole truth about who I am really as he may also want to stop talking to me as he keeps telling me "Ive always wanted a Son" so when I tell him i'm his daughter I really dont know how he will react. Despite the fact that he has been abusive I still want him in my life. So what should i do?
Thank you for your help with this

[stephaniec]

Is there some reason to rush telling them and do you have a therapist

[Denise]

Assume if you write him a note, he will show it to everyone, your mom included. 
I agree with what Stephanie said.

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[gwencook]

My reasons for telling them are mixed. My father I want to tell because I feel I owe him the truth for why I will walk out the house and never return (too much abuse and controlling from him buy I'd rather him still not feel guilty).
My mom I want to tell because we have not had a relationship in 4 years since she left my dad (again the abuse and controlling) and she has said that when I leave home I can stay at hers. I'd rather not rebuild a relationship with the possibility that when I tell her later on she may possibly reject me, which would devastate me.
My own personal reason is that I'm so sick of constantly hiding who I am. I want to live my life freely and truly instead of pretending to be someone I'm not. So I guess partly I feel that if I do leave a note and he does show it other people then it helps me to come out of the closet as such.
And no I don't have a therapist currently as I'm literally not allowed to do anything without my father say so.