Hi,
after quite a rocky time getting over a girl I liked last year, I hope I might have finally find somebody worth my time.
This girl, which I fancy for quite a while now, sent me a message on Fb and we started talking about different topics and communicating every 3-4 days. This is now lasting for a month. We have a lot of things in common. Sometimes she sends me a message first, sometimes I do it. I've also helped her with one problem and she thanked me by sending a customized thanks message. She also really likes that I'm a scorpio in the horoscope because she is a cancer.
To make it more clear, before we started texting, we had two drinks in a group of people (we work in the same industry, so it was 2 companies hanging out).
Since I really like her I decided to ask her out. She was totally up for it (she said that) and we had a really great conversation that lasted for 3 hours. I learned a lot about her and she asked me a bunch of things as well. I just can't tell if she considered that as a date or just a couple of people meeting (we never had a 1 on 1 before).
We talked about a lot of stuff, but we didn't open the topic of relationships with other people. She is also really shy from times to times and for example at the end of the date she seemed a little bit nervous - looking at my eyes less and just firing up cigarettes (what would this mean at the end of a date)? It could also be she was just tired since she had a long day.
What is bugging me now is the fact that she mentioned she had boyfriends before and I'm transgender. I believe she is bisexual perhaps since she is all up for women's rights, LGBTQ as a community and she is astonished by Black Mirror's San Junipero episode. And, basically, she knows me as a woman since I'm not openly out yet.
I would just like to get to know if she likes me as a person or just as a friend and I don't know how to do it?
I presume you will probably say I would have to ask, but as we work in the same industry and our companies sometimes hang, I don't want to bring anything weird if she doesn't feel anything. And I don't want to be too pushy since she can be really shy. And especially since I lost a person completely last year by saying to her that I like her (she stopped communicating with me), I don't want to go through the same stuff again because it hurts a lot.
Our first date (at least that is how I call it) was 2 days ago and I just send her a message on which she gladly responded and continued the conversation.
Thanks for your help!