Do we trans folk take ourselves too seriously

[Julia1996]

   I was trying to be very serious the other day by sneaking into the busy freeway gas station to refuel and go when I locked myself out in what have been described as a typical female move. IE leaving my purse in the truck, my keys in the ignition and locking the doors. I was very much embarrassed by it and forced to be that "Damsel in distress"  having to ask stranger for help.
  It was a very traumatic and serious event for me and yet what I relate it to anyone they laugh at me. Cis women friends actually seem to enjoy it more than you ladies here.
   I feel so belittled and abused by everyone's lack of understanding and compassion. I could just huddle in the corner and cry and no one would care. Especial that self centered creature with the deceased dog that started this thread. I mean really she thinks this site is all about her when it is obvious to the more casual observer that it's really all about me.

*sigh* I guess I will have to chalk up my horrible gas filled experience as a bit of entertainment for everyone else and claim I did so as a training exercise of what not to do for everyone else.

Poor me, poor me, poor me.
LMAO
    Laurie 

I did that once. My dad had to drive across town with the spare keys. For like a week after that everytime I went somewhere my dad would say " Now be sure to lock your keys in the car so you don't lose them."

[Crush935]

Oh yeah I think we do.  I have had to step out of the community and isolate myself to a few choice places (like this one) to interact with the community. 

This place is one of the lesser serious ones in my opinion and people can have opinions.  Even if they aren't popular. 

And I appreciate that about this place. 

Some people do get very wrapped up in certain things and forget that they are human. 

I feel like posts like this are great for reminding us to all step back and realize we are awesome and human and deserve to feel and laugh and be happy and sad and proud and all the feels!!


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[HappyMoni]

   I was trying to be very serious the other day by sneaking into the busy freeway gas station to refuel and go when I locked myself out in what have been described as a typical female move. IE leaving my purse in the truck, my keys in the ignition and locking the doors. I was very much embarrassed by it and forced to be that "Damsel in distress"  having to ask stranger for help.
  It was a very traumatic and serious event for me and yet what I relate it to anyone they laugh at me. Cis women friends actually seem to enjoy it more than you ladies here.
   I feel so belittled and abused by everyone's lack of understanding and compassion. I could just huddle in the corner and cry and no one would care. Especial that self centered creature with the deceased dog that started this thread. I mean really she thinks this site is all about her when it is obvious to the more casual observer that it's really all about me.

*sigh* I guess I will have to chalk up my horrible gas filled experience as a bit of entertainment for everyone else and claim I did so as a training exercise of what not to do for everyone else.

Poor me, poor me, poor me.
LMAO
    Laurie 

Laurie when I think of you, I don't know whether  to laugh or cry.  Now be respectful to Clyde, my hairless dog whom I despise. I am asking for a moment of silence on next Tuesday to mark his departure. Guess you are wrong, Laurie, its not about you or me, its about Clyde.

Love the lock the keys in the car so you don't lose them.

Moni



Come on Dreamer, laugh with us.

[LizK]

I did that once. My dad had to drive across town with the spare keys. For like a week after that everytime I went somewhere my dad would say " Now be sure to lock your keys in the car so you don't lose them."

Brilliant..."Dad" humour at its best! 

[eyesk8rboi]

I don't take my self seriously 98% of the time.......
I am probably what most people would consider an a-hole and a clown.

I am always goofing off, always making fun of myself and my friends (my friend's are also a-holes so it's cool).....My humor can be offensive, dark, deadpan, sarcastic, goofy....etc.


While I do understand that being anywhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum is hard and can be pretty much turmoil for some people, and that there is hate and violence and discrimination, so there is a lot to fear and worry about...All of these fears are validated, however we have to learn to laugh some of the time....

Learn to laugh and smile, learn to laugh at yourself, learn to take a joke....etc.
The internet is a hard place to make jokes as they don't always come across correctly in text, even if you tag JK on the end of it, how is someone supposed to know you're sincerely joking...You can literally type ANYTHING whether you mean it or not.

I get both sides of the spectrum on this topic.....

But I am a goofball and it literally takes SOOOOOO much to offend me in the slightest that I am an angering amount of neutral to most people. xD;

[Rachel_Christina]

Everyone takes themselves to serious nowadays lol, nothing to do with being trans or not.
I always was a joker mocking myself n what not.
And I kinda feel I shouldn't do it so much, as it's a dead giveaway. Annoying because always love making a laugh lol

[EndlessEden]

  I would make plenty of puns on the subject. But, i think we all are Super Serious to start. Fear, Anxiety, Hope and Desire. Those are the earliest emotions i remember from my transition.

I would get so worked up, i would over-analyse everything and end up walking into everything XD. i forget to just relax and be myself, more worried about 'fitting in' and being 'Passable'. Didnt take long to realise, Being yourself is more passable, than walking into everything and panicking XD

----

All of you are Awesome XD

~E:Rose

[HappyMoni]

Everyone takes themselves to serious nowadays lol, nothing to do with being trans or not.
I always was a joker mocking myself n what not.
And I kinda feel I shouldn't do it so much, as it's a dead giveaway. Annoying because always love making a laugh lol

Its funny you say that. As a guy, I was often out to get that laugh. Maybe it was me trying to find self worth any way I could. Now, I don't need that. I tend to be more quiet, listen more, and generally mellow out. I think I am less annoying and happier. On here, I go between being very serious and looking for some humor. When I started on Susan's I found it very serious. When I discovered Laurie welcoming everybody and their mother and moving furniture around I saw a chance to  play. We have been messing with each other ever since. Now I have discovered there are a lot of people on here with great senses of humor. Maybe so many are afraid to joke for fear of being misinterpreted.
Moni

[Rachel_Christina]

Yea, the problem I have is that I'm trying to avoid it, it's such a thing of my past.
I still love cracking jokes and all but I just look like my old self, not enough time has passed since I have begun living as a woman, and since I'm still not out at work I'm still forced to remember the male me :/
I'm sure I will fit in once I can chill, and just be myself. But as you said I'm in a very observant phase right now wher I watch and listen to all around me. I get nervous easily as well which I never had to deal with on this level.

[HappyMoni]

Yea, the problem I have is that I'm trying to avoid it, it's such a thing of my past.
I still love cracking jokes and all but I just look like my old self, not enough time has passed since I have begun living as a woman, and since I'm still not out at work I'm still forced to remember the male me :/
I'm sure I will fit in once I can chill, and just be myself. But as you said I'm in a very observant phase right now wher I watch and listen to all around me. I get nervous easily as well which I never had to deal with on this level.

Rachel,
I can definitely relate to that. I am hoping after a year of genuine living, I am leaving that self-conscious phase to some extent. My brother is coming soon for my surgery. He is constantly joking. I can now let him enjoy that spotlight since I no longer need it. I will  surgically pick my spots for a few failed attempts at humor though. There will no doubt be a lot of laughing going on the next two weeks. I expect most will be at my expense. Hope you have luck with reaching your goals. Just remember, if you ever are in need of someone poking fun at you, call me. I will make that sacrifice for you, Girl.
Moni

[HappyMoni]

I would make plenty of puns on the subject. But, i think we all are Super Serious to start. Fear, Anxiety, Hope and Desire. Those are the earliest emotions i remember from my transition.

I would get so worked up, i would over-analyse everything and end up walking into everything XD. i forget to just relax and be myself, more worried about 'fitting in' and being 'Passable'. Didnt take long to realise, Being yourself is more passable, than walking into everything and panicking XD

----

All of you are Awesome XD

~E:Rose

Rose, what you say is quite wise, and I agree 100% but I am curious about what you walked into. Is it  situations or are you saying you walk into furniture? Like, "What is that person thinking of me?" and suddenly you are tumbling down the stairs? The funniest moment of my life is when one of my brothers was in a pet store and I was standing outside looking at him. He was walking forward, peeked up at me, and ran headlong into the plastic viewing glass where you could see the puppies. I could hear the thud.  The look on his stunned (not hurt) face had me on the floor, hysterical. I am secretly hoping you have some stories like that. We trans people deserve to laugh today. No pressure.
Moni

[Rachel_Christina]

Haha thanks Moni.
And goodluck with surgery!

[Denni]

Well here we are again, only post-op this time with Moni and her anatomy that seems to be consuming me every time I get near a golf course. We all know that Clyde has caused untold numbers of golfers to suffer with the yips, ( I mean the woofs)  especially me. I thought with his demise that I no longer had to fear approaching any green with my putter but now I am not so sure. Upon approaching a green shortly after her surgery, there, lurking in the background was this very nice looking feline. As I got closer I could hear it slowly purring and meowing something, but what really got my attention was what she had in her paws! In one paw, there it was, the poor departed Clyde, swinging slowly, in the other paw as I looked closer, I was filled with dread, for it was a bloodied hatchet! We now know how the poor departed Clyde met his demise, it was not in the operating room but before ever reaching the operating room with a quick whack of the hatchet and he was gone. It was then that I realized who we are now dealing with Moni and her new anatomy, it is Molly, "Molly Hatchet". It became even clearer to me when I realized what she was purring and meowing, for it was "Flirtin with Disaster" . This is one woman to be now taken very seriously, Laurie if I were you I would suggest the witness protection program! I know that I am safe to return to my golf game, thankfully, for she purred to me that I no longer need to fear the woofs.

P.S. The contents of this posting contain no facts or fiction, especially facts, for Molly speaks the truth and nothing but the truth. Hugs

[Laurie]

But but but I thought I had Clyde's remains... If that was Clyde you saw Denni what do I have in my purse still?
   ewww I don't even want to think what it could be.....

And btw I'm not afraid of Monihooha. I'm sure I can still take her and hope she is in much better condition when next I hunt her down.

Laurie

[HappyMoni]

For once in my life I am speechless.

[LizK]

I think you have both been stitched up...the questions remains

.........Where is Clyde?

[HappyMoni]

We all know I wouldn't stay speechless for long, right. Denni, my friend you knocked it out of the park with naming Clyde. Pure Genius! I am afraid your pussy is an imposter though. Clyde is indeed in Laurie's purse. Unless you have a fear of purses, your golf game is safe. I looked up the band and it was an all guy band with most everyone being deceased. It is not quite the image for my new little friend. I believe Kendra thought of Bonnie, so it would be Moni and Bonnie. I thought of an Austin Powers slant (no pun intended) of 'MiniMoni. If I followed a dark theme like Denni, I would maybe go with Mistress something like Mistress Willow, my p*ssy. Since my new friend barely pokes her head out to see the  world, I think something more demure might fit better. It just might be 'she who goes nameless.'  My heart goes out to any newbie clicking this thread  and trying to figure out what the heck we are talking about. I hear a 500 batting average puts one in the hall of fame, DenDen!

Moni
That wasn't a  TOS violation I hope.

[LizK]

[Denni]

Aaaahhhhh, but Moni, further research would have revealed to you the true identity of Molly. Molly was a prostitute who when finishing with her clients conveniently sent them on their final journey with a hatchet, never to abuse a woman again. The band put the two together to form their name, "Molly Hatchet", Flirtin with Disaster was their first album and went to number one,  Was thinking of you when I thought of your new anatomy and the number one as I am sure that is what you now think of it. Oh well, I will settle for batting .500 any day, now if I could only do the same for my golf game, lol.

P.S. the truth and nothing but the truth

[HappyMoni]

Now Denni, you gonna tempt me with that prostitute angle aren't ya. It is tempting, to be sure, but the violent aspect is a bit too much. I gave up axe murder when I transitioned. You know that.
Moni
My first golf game had a score like 500. That was a 9 hole course.