My boyfriend just told me he's transgender.

[kadyblight94]

I'm 100% supportive, I told him that over and over again. He thought that it was going to change our relationship. I made sure he knew I still love him and I'm gonna be right by his side the entire time, transition and all. But I just need some help figuring out how I should react. I don't wanna go over board and make it seem like I'm lying, but I don't wanna stay quiet so he thinks something's wrong. I just never thought I'd be in this situation, I don't know anyone who has. So I'm not sure how to feel. Anything would help. Thank you!!!!

[Rachel_Christina]

Hiya.
My gf got stuck in your position at the start of last year when I dropped the bomb on her.
I tried everything to break up with her but she wouldn't, I love her and she loves me, doing that was horrible, but I did not want her to go through this. She never left and never gave up on me and eventually I did tell her, she was as you wher totally supportive, she has never changed, from day one she has always been by my side, and is a total rock, not even I have been as supportive of myself as she was lol.
If you are like this your boyfriend/ eventual Girlfriend is very lucky.
My gf helped with make up and show me how pretty I could be, it boosted my confidence big time in the beginning. She also looked for psychologists endocrinologists, sperm bank places, GRS surgeons, this may be a little overwhelming, this happened gradually, and you will have to gauge the situation yourself.
Goodluck, hugs Rachel

[elkie-t]

Offer him (her?) makeup lessons, or take shopping, or to do a photo session. Help him chose a new name. Basically, if he told you, he wants you in his life and transition, but he might be a lot scared to actually give you more information until he sees more than just words of acceptance. You can be proactive, treat him as a girlfriend, and watch his reaction.


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[Tommi]

Is your girlfriend MtF? Or is your boyfriend FtM?

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"You do realize, this means you get to do character creation & the newbie zone all over again? "

[kadyblight94]

Is your girlfriend MtF? Or is your boyfriend FtM?

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"You do realize, this means you get to do character creation & the newbie zone all over again? "

My boyfriend is mtf.

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[Devlyn]

Good on ya for being supportive! I think youre getting the questions because here we never misgender anyone. If someone says they're MTF, we refer to them as female.

Hugs, Devlyn

[kadyblight94]

Good on ya for being supportive! I think youre getting the questions because here we never misgender anyone. If someone says they're MTF, we refer to them as female.

Hugs, Devlyn

Thank you! Of course! I just want her to be happy, and being the first person she told, I feel so honored that she told me.

[MissKairi]

It's great that there are some open minded partners out there
When I told my ex she insisted it was some kinda kinky fantasy and refused to believe me. We soon split up but not for those reasons (she claimed)

So good on you!
Be prepared that when she's dressed as a girl fully it may be a little (lot) shocking.
Just remember they are the same person you fell in love with, they just want to look how they feel

[kadyblight94]

It's great that there are some open minded partners out there
When I told my ex she insisted it was some kinda kinky fantasy and refused to believe me. We soon split up but not for those reasons (she claimed)

So good on you!
Be prepared that when she's dressed as a girl fully it may be a little (lot) shocking.
Just remember they are the same person you fell in love with, they just want to look how they feel

When she told me that she had something she really needes to tell me, I thought of all the possibilities and I've been thinking about this one a lot so I was kind of ready for it, but it's real now. I never thought I'd be in this spot, but it makes it easier for me, cause I've always been more into girls. That's why she also was able to tell me so easily. When you love someone, you don't give up on them, even if it's something you're not familiar or used to.

[coldHeart]

Hiya.
My gf got stuck in your position at the start of last year when I dropped the bomb on her.
I tried everything to break up with her but she wouldn't, I love her and she loves me, doing that was horrible, but I did not want her to go through this. She never left and never gave up on me and eventually I did tell her, she was as you wher totally supportive, she has never changed, from day one she has always been by my side, and is a total rock, not even I have been as supportive of myself as she was lol.
If you are like this your boyfriend/ eventual Girlfriend is very lucky.
My gf helped with make up and show me how pretty I could be, it boosted my confidence big time in the beginning. She also looked for psychologists endocrinologists, sperm bank places, GRS surgeons, this may be a little overwhelming, this happened gradually, and you will have to gauge the situation yourself.
Goodluck, hugs Rachel
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Wow Rachel sounds like you have a wonderful gf there. Sara

[Rachel_Christina]

Yep coldHeart, she did everything for me. She has a heart of gold <3

[kadyblight94]

Yep coldHeart, she did everything for me. She has a heart of gold <3

That's how I plan on being. I'm not very educated about it yet, but I'm learning and Im making her questions and doing everything I can to make her more comfortable.

[Rachel_Christina]

Yeah good for you, look things up and just be gentle in this time, I was clueless on alot of things in the beginning :')

[SophieD]

If you're a committed couple and plan to stay together, in many ways you are facing a transition also.  My wife has come to refer to "her transition" and that's given me a strong sense of love and support.  It has also given me a framework for understanding the interelationship of my own changes with hers.  We have come to share ownership, and that's strengthened our couple rather than weakening it.

That approach may not be the right one for all couples, but I offer that perception in case it resonates.  Best wishes to you both!

[Harley Quinn]

I dig indifference. A couple of pronoun changes in conversation. But nothing else is really all that different. That's what works best for me... everyone is going to be different, but unless they are lobbying for being treated differently,  business as usual keeps the awkwardness to a minimum.