This does touch upon a very real issue... that... well, to be frank I've noticed happen here a bit. People show up and ask "Am I trans?", "What does this mean?", etc... And many of the responses are "You sound trans to me." There are many things that can manifest as those symptoms, and I do believe it is irresponsible for strangers to push a narrative based on their own experiences. I recall one poster that scared the hell out of me, because I saw in her every last telltale sign of severe OCD and latching onto the idea she might be trans more than actually manifesting either dysphoria driven "symptoms" or non-dysphoria driven "symptoms". Unfortunately, a few people, in good faith but I believe irresponsibly, replied with very definitive "You're trans" responses. I was concerned enough I contacted mods to keep an eye on the situation. While comparing experiences can be a very valid thing, a very important thing(Ie: "I did this, this, and this as a child." "I don't know if you're trans, only you and your therapist can work that out, but I did those same things."), the blanket "cis people don't question their gender" statement is... simplistic. I believe that "healthy" (used very relative) cis people do not question their gender. Unfortunately, there are far too many people who are not "healthy" in that respect, who are cis and do. Likewise for those who may seek a full binary transition but prefer to be in the middle, agender, fluid, or non-binary.
Also, I believe unequivocally supporting detransitioners and understanding WHY they are destransitioning is integral for our future, for progressing our understanding of what it means to be trans or the complications that can lead to a mistaken or transitory trans identity.
I also believe that detransitioners are VERY MUCH still part of the community. The trans vs cis label does not matter. I believe this is a community not built on those labels, but built on shared experiences. Experience that in the overwhelming majority, shapes compassion and kindness. In other words, once you're family, you're family, and I see no reason that detransitioners shouldn't be given every bit the same love and acceptance as everyone else.