Dating and relationships post transition..too picky?

[yayo]

So I thought it'd be fun to have a thread where we can share stories of dating post transition.

I've been transitioning a little over 4 years (I'm currently 22) but I was dating the same guy for 3 of those years. We just broke up a couple months ago. I'm finally over it, no longer believe we'll get back together, no longer even want to - I'm moving on, rebounds out of the way.

That said, I feel like dating is excruciating and I'm really missing the feeling of knowing exactly who I wanted and being able to have him. Now it's like, I'm having to sort through a lot of frogs. I get a lot of attention, and it's not even only sexual - I am just really really picky.

I have a type. Think Matt Damon. I like blonde, blue eyes, smart, sweet, etc. My ex checked all those boxes and it NEVER felt like settling to be with him. So now, I'm seeing some nice, cute perfectly decent guys casually who seem super into me...and I'm just not feeling it ;(

It just seems pointless to fake it when I know what love can really feel like. One guy and I are talking about moving in together. He's so cute, my mother loves him, he's smart, driven. But he isn't my type. And there's no spark, for me.

So what do I do? Do I just settle and hope my feelings change? That's never been me ;( but it seems like what everyone thinks I should do. Am I just too picky? Does having a type keep you in a box? Any input or shared experiences are more than welcome <3

[Barb99]

Welcome to picky land! I like it here and am never leaving. I'm 60+ so being picky really makes it difficult to find someone. But ya know what, I'd rather continue on alone than settle for someone in the hopes that we will grow into each other.

Your young, you have a lot of time and life ahead of you. Never settle! If your not sure about someone, just be friends. Maybe someday that friendship will grow into something else, but don't try to force it, you'll just end up with someone you don't really want.

[MissKairi]

my friend said leaving the boring safe relationships till youre scared of dying alone haha

For me, would I want to be with someone where its just kinda 'meh'? not personally no.

[echo7]

I don't know about you, but personally I'm holding out for that super-hot billionaire vampire/werewolf who is a cardiac surgeon by day and a batman-like superhero by night. 

Kidding aside, I feel like the older you get, the more pressure you feel to not be so picky and just settle for more of a practical relationship.  But you are only 22, with a lifetime of experiences ahead of you.  If I were you, I would keep dating and keeping my options open.