Davina's diary

davina61 · June 10, 2018, 11:57:23 AM

Thanks Sadie love, Always lighter in morning due to fluids and that can make readings go up or down. Its lamb and spinach tonight, just going to put spinach in pan , laters XX

davina61 · June 10, 2018, 03:33:10 PM

Just wasted 2 hours of my time ringing bank as new card wouldn't work on line. That's 1 1/4 on hold and the rest while they p**sed about . Works now and hotel booked for UK Meetup. Just the train tickets to sort then------- or should that be==========?

davina61 · June 11, 2018, 03:34:38 PM

Got email to say changes on car insurance so logged on to check as they used my old name on mail, they have changed it to Davina BUT it says MR still ,>-bleeped-<ty phone call time again.

Laurie · June 11, 2018, 05:02:01 PM

What fun getting companies to get things right. My experiences in that realm are just starting. So far so good.
Hang in there hun.

Hugs,
Laurie

davina61 · June 12, 2018, 01:11:02 PM

think I only have a few things left (apart from birth cert, but that's one for a clear head!!) internet, mobile A/C s . Will start new Fleabay as missis and kids use the old one . then once I have changed all the email links will kill my old yahoo one. That should clear a lot of dead name stuff but bet I have missed something.

Northern Star Girl · June 12, 2018, 01:20:31 PM

Quote from: davina61 on June 12, 2018, 01:11:02 PM
think I only have a few things left (apart from birth cert, but that's one for a clear head!!) internet, mobile A/C s . Will start new Fleabay as missis and kids use the old one . then once I have changed all the email links will kill my old yahoo one. That should clear a lot of dead name stuff but bet I have missed something.

Dear Davina: It is undoubtedly a very daunting task to change your legal name and the subsequent tasks of getting all of your documents updated. Working especially with local and federal government agencies can be very frustrating and time consuming. However, my biggest challenge was to get my high school, college and university diplomas changed to my new legal name... and also my CPA certification for my new state of residence where I now have a business.

In my own experience, just when you think that EVERYTHING is done and the task is complete.... low and behold you find more things that need your attention.... and, of course, you will be getting mail addressed you with your "dead name" .... for years possibly !!!! Isn't this a fun adventure?

!!!
Thanks for posting your update.
Hugs,
Danielle

davina61 · June 12, 2018, 02:23:03 PM

yes need to write a list as just thought of another one and promptly forgot it , bloody dyslexic brain.

davina61 · June 13, 2018, 03:23:10 PM

The girls have been sore so measured around and 1/2 inch more, don't need a cushion to sit on a hard surface anymore as have my own!! Stood on scales and still same but had a thought, with extra up top and bottom effectively have lost some pounds. Sound or flawed logic or wish full thinking

davina61 · June 14, 2018, 01:47:08 PM

Soooo rang car insurance and after 10 mins of recoded bollocks got to talk to a woman , told her name changed but still said Mr not Miss and this in my best fem voice (its rubbish) so she said she would change it and then signed of by saying thankyou MR ---. WTF its hard work isn't it!!!!!!

Kendra · June 14, 2018, 03:12:28 PM

If a business doesn't treat you like a customer, prove the customer is always right by immediately taking your money elsewhere.

I switched about 10% of my previous accounts and expenditures after running into hassles with a few during my legal name change. And I told them exactly why I was dumping them. The only exception was PayPal (solved by sending registered mail to their headquarters), but if any good alternative exists I'll dump that one too.

I found most businesses were very polite and fast about this. For those that were not, I don't miss them.

davina61 · June 14, 2018, 03:46:20 PM

Pay Pal was fine once sent them documents, I don't blame the lady on phone as towards end of day and what a mind numbing job. Anyway or is that - meanwhile back in the kitchen- made cauliflower and meat (lamb) curry and a big pot of dry mixed veg curry AND a pineapple upside down cake .

davina61 · June 15, 2018, 02:38:54 PM

Had my hand shook by a customer this morning saying " good luck with your transition, your brave" not sure how to take that. Maybe they were F to M ? then that made me think do they think I am F to M or M to F? Did good luck mean you will be lucky to pass. Just my rambling thoughts and nothing to worry me about.

JudiBlueEyes · June 15, 2018, 07:46:03 PM

Maybe he saw something in you that was beyond his comprehension and therefore brave.

I've never thought of my transition as a brave thing to do. My best and closest friend once called me brave and I told him I wasn't, that I was just doing what I needed to do. But I totally understand where he was coming from as changing genders and living as so in public, facing the scrutiny of others is the definition of bravery to some. So maybe I am. And if I am then so are you girlfriend!
Judi

Shy · June 16, 2018, 01:52:02 AM

Quote from: davina61 on June 15, 2018, 02:38:54 PM
Had my hand shook by a customer this morning saying " good luck with your transition, your brave" not sure how to take that. Maybe they were F to M ? then that made me think do they think I am F to M or M to F? Did good luck mean you will be lucky to pass. Just my rambling thoughts and nothing to worry me about.

They were just being nice, so plonk a big smile on your face and remember that there are still good people left in this world. Lots of them really

Peace and love and all that good stuff,

Sadie

davina61 · June 16, 2018, 01:40:28 PM

To stay as I was would be brave, I just gave in to my desires .Must go and take birthday cake out of oven, its a cherry and coconut for my eldest lad for Monday.

Rachel · June 16, 2018, 05:00:31 PM

I got that a lot when I first came out and started expressing. I would take people at face value and I think they are genuine. Definitely do not read into their comments. They are wishing you well and think you are brave. It takes a lot to go against social norms.

davina61 · June 17, 2018, 01:22:23 PM

Just took me by surprise really but welcome. My eldest called in to day after going to his sisters to remove a radiator. He brought a fathers day card from her, forgot the one he got me (normal for him!)but remembered to bring a bottle of Chianti. Gave up going to my unit as it was 1 pm by the time I had eaten my lunch so went to visit mum.
Hormone update , found where the E is working yes my butt and my face (both sets of cheeks then!!) and not on the boobs so much. Hope it cycles soon.

JudiBlueEyes · June 17, 2018, 07:44:42 PM

The E certainly filled out my facial cheeks and I look much better IMO. The chest area could use a bit more attention! I won't talk about my skinny butt...

davina61 · June 18, 2018, 12:26:50 PM

My butt isn't skinny anymore, must update my avatar . Today picked a car up just a short walk away from News paper office and when I took it back the receptionist rang to the office and said your cars back and SHE has parked it back to where it was. No pause or anything when she said SHE. Think that might be the first time I have been gendered correctly like this. Happy days.

Northern Star Girl · June 18, 2018, 05:26:31 PM

Quote from: davina61 on June 18, 2018, 12:26:50 PM
My butt isn't skinny anymore, must update my avatar . Today picked a car up just a short walk away from News paper office and when I took it back the receptionist rang to the office and said your cars back and SHE has parked it back to where it was. No pause or anything when she said SHE. Think that might be the first time I have been gendered correctly like this. Happy days.

@davina61
Dear Davina:
What a wonderful happening for sure... being gendered correctly without even a pause is worthy of celebration with more of that to come for sure.

So, regarding your new avatar to come... what exactly will you be taking a picture of

LOL
Hugs,
Danielle

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