Terrified w/prospect of going to therapist as Sarah

[elkie-t]

Try to visually hide your forehead. And maybe bright pink or red lipstick to draw attention to your lips. (My favorite is L'Oreal - it tastes good and you want to apply it more and more). Also - don't cover your A(at most?) breasts with heavy jackets - you need to show what you got, maybe wonderbra or some push-up bra and make sure it shows through your top or blouse.
It's beautiful that you go natural, with no shape enhancing forms and wigs, but you might choose clothes enhancing your assets, directing eye sights where you want it to be directed and adding feminine hints.

And btw, why not to have earrings?


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[Sarah.VanDistel]

Try to visually hide your forehead. And maybe bright pink or red lipstick to draw attention to your lips. (My favorite is L'Oreal - it tastes good and you want to apply it more and more). Also - don't cover your A(at most?) breasts with heavy jackets - you need to show what you got, maybe wonderbra or some push-up bra and make sure it shows through your top or blouse.
It's beautiful that you go natural, with no shape enhancing forms and wigs, but you might choose clothes enhancing your assets, directing eye sights where you want it to be directed and adding feminine hints.

And btw, why not to have earrings?


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Thanks Elkie!

I do have a couple of lipsticks, namely one which is bright red and tastes a bit like raspberry (by Bourjois) but I'm always afraid of overdoing it... My breasts actually fill a B cup (my old A bras sort of flatten my breasts) but I... well... that stupid voice inside asking what will "they" think.

Wait a second... Gonna try something and you'll let me know, okay? Would this be better?


And about the face (lipstick)... is it okay?

Edit: one more pic... [emoji4]

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[KathyLauren]

Awesome, Sarah!  You are rocking that look.  Go for it!

[Sarah.VanDistel]

Awesome, Sarah!  You are rocking that look.  Go for it!

Hummm... You're right! The bright red lipstick does match Sarah! Who would have said? 😗
Thanks Kathy Lauren! You're a sweetie!

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[Sarah.VanDistel]

It's totally decided: I'll go to my next therapy session as Sarah... and the following sessions also. This will be a non-return point. And I'm happy as heck! 🤗

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[natalie.ashlyne]

It's totally decided: I'll go to my next therapy session as Sarah... and the following sessions also. This will be a non-return point. And I'm happy as heck! 🤗

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cool congratulations I am happy for you

[DawnOday]

I went to my therapy session en femme the last two times. The only time I know of that I have been seen. I survived, and am determined to be out and about more often. I did make my debut in front of a room half filled with kids, which really what kid does not ask questions. Like I said, I survived. You will too. You look terrific by the way.

luv Dawn

[Laurie]

Hi Sarah,

  I love your decision and I think it is going to do you a world of good. Kathy is right you rock that look, girl.
Be sure to tell us all about how it goes and how you felt while being yourself. I bet you'll be a bit nervous but do NOT let that stop you. I've been there as you may have read and ran into a packed lobby the first time I did it but it felt so good to have done it after. And you will too. Just do it.

Hugs,
    Laurie

[Zille]

Sarah,

I can only say that for the last 4 months I've gone to my therapist dressed. Even if I'm no way near transitioning, still living full time male and have gone most often even with stubble. If I am particularly worried going sometimes dressed I just wear woman's jeans and a top but sneakers and switch to heels at the therapist's office. More often than not I end up walking out of there in the heels anyway.

Do I get looks, yeah sometimes, beard doesn't help obviously but like others here have mentioned and my therapist repeatedly, I'm much more relaxed, open and honest as my true self.

All the courage to you and do write how you felt after going. I find the experience so liberating sitting there talking as my true self.


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[elkie-t]

Looks great what I like about your photos - you always smile and look relaxed, your lips are puffy, your posture looks feminine (kind of not vertical and stiff male but s-shaped and flexible female). And you know what to do with your hands


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[Michelle_P]

Sarah, with that wrap and lipstick, you look EXACTLY like a woman who works in a jewelry shop I pass every day, and I've never thought she was a trans person.

Then again, she was in a Starbucks I was in last week, and I did notice her looking at me and smiling in an interesting way...

[elkie-t]

Sarah, I am also thinking that you can experiment with wider neck cuts - v-shape, or just wider women likes to show skin). And also, make sure you have tops in different colors, not only black (black is cool sometimes, but not for every day). In a word, have fun, you look young and sexy


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[LizK]

Sarah,

I can only say that for the last 4 months I've gone to my therapist dressed. Even if I'm no way near transitioning, still living full time male and have gone most often even with stubble. If I am particularly worried going sometimes dressed I just wear woman's jeans and a top but sneakers and switch to heels at the therapist's office. More often than not I end up walking out of there in the heels anyway.

Do I get looks, yeah sometimes, beard doesn't help obviously but like others here have mentioned and my therapist repeatedly, I'm much more relaxed, open and honest as my true self.

All the courage to you and do write how you felt after going. I find the experience so liberating sitting there talking as my true self.


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[elkie-t]

Sarah, I am also thinking that you can experiment with wider neck cuts - v-shape, or just wider women likes to show skin). And also, make sure you have tops in different colors, not only black (black is cool sometimes, but not for every day). In a word, have fun, you look young and sexy

On the second thought, maybe flowers and light colors aren't your style. You look stylish in black. What I meant to say, you're entitled to experiment with different styles on different days if you want to

[SadieBlake]

Sarah, you'll be fine, everyone makes their own choices about how to be out presenting as femme. For my part, I haven't dressed femme in public in many years because while I enjoyed it in one sense, wearing a skirt or dress without tucking doesn't look right and for me tucking felt worse then just going out drab.

Since GCS I was honestly surprised that I finally felt motivated to wear feminine attire again, and I guess my second day out dressed was my last therapy appointment, 2 weeks ago. That felt wonderful of course and I also put the time in to do full makeup. There's no question of passing, I don't between beard and baldness and I'm content with that.

I'd expected to live post op more or less as I had during the year of RLE (en drab with as many feminine touches as I could manage and breasts pretty obvious under my attire), however as soon as I had the cycles to spare I started announcing my name change and dressing femme more often than not.

So far I've only been hassled once - ignorant teenagers in a car. Annoying but I knew it will happen sometimes. Mostly people I don't known on the street clearly don't take note while my friends and co-workers seem to appreciate the changes.

So. My next therapy is also Tuesday, 10 am eastern time, what time are you going to yours? In any case, I'll be thinking of you.

[Sarah_P]

Sarah, you look amazing! The red lipstick really looks good. And yes, you've definitely got the feminine posture down!

[Sarah.VanDistel]

Hi Girls!

First of all, I wish to thank you all profusely for taking the time for answering, commenting and giving suggestions. That was really nice of you! I'm sorry for not answering you immediately, but I've just finished a 24h workshift which was all but easy! I'll do my best to answer each of you, but keep in mind that I'm little tired... [emoji16]

Big hugs! I will never forger you!

Sarah

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[Sarah.VanDistel]

Sarah, you look amazing! The red lipstick really looks good. And yes, you've definitely got the feminine posture down!

Lol... The red lipstick is kinda cool... I have the impression that it nicely fits my style, my way of expressing feminity. And I reckon that the contrast with the black clothes is nice. I think I will go more or less like that to my appointment tomorrow...

Hugs, Sarah

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[Sarah.VanDistel]

Sarah, you'll be fine, everyone makes their own choices about how to be out presenting as femme. For my part, I haven't dressed femme in public in many years because while I enjoyed it in one sense, wearing a skirt or dress without tucking doesn't look right and for me tucking felt worse then just going out drab.

Since GCS I was honestly surprised that I finally felt motivated to wear feminine attire again, and I guess my second day out dressed was my last therapy appointment, 2 weeks ago. That felt wonderful of course and I also put the time in to do full makeup. There's no question of passing, I don't between beard and baldness and I'm content with that.

I'd expected to live post op more or less as I had during the year of RLE (en drab with as many feminine touches as I could manage and breasts pretty obvious under my attire), however as soon as I had the cycles to spare I started announcing my name change and dressing femme more often than not.

So far I've only been hassled once - ignorant teenagers in a car. Annoying but I knew it will happen sometimes. Mostly people I don't known on the street clearly don't take note while my friends and co-workers seem to appreciate the changes.

So. My next therapy is also Tuesday, 10 am eastern time, what time are you going to yours? In any case, I'll be thinking of you.

Hey Sadie! 😊

I share very much you're perspective, although I'm clearly at a much earlier stage than you. In that sense, you are an inspiration for my own development!

Tucking has never been a problem for me, because I don't tuck. I never did... I was that kid everyone bullied in the gym locker because he had... well... you've guessed it: a tiny "wiener". And I mean really tiny. And now with HRT, even tinyer. 😋 I now see that almost as a blessing, although I'm also aware that it will add a level of complexity to "the" surgery... And now, with HRT, the testes seem like two chickpeas - didn't expect it to be so fast, really! So even when I wear slim jeans for women, there's no noticeable bulge. As for skirts, I only have circle skirts because they make my hips a bit broader, which works to my advantage because I feel that I have relatively broad shoulders; as you know, circle skirts are sort of fluffy and you can't see any bulge. Never tried a swimsuit, though... I guess that it might be problematic without some sort of tucking. 🤔

Tomorrow I'll be having my appointment with the therapist at 17:00 (Central European Summer Time)... And I'll sure think of you!

Peace & Hugs, Sarah

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[Sarah.VanDistel]

On the second thought, maybe flowers and light colors aren't your style. You look stylish in black. What I meant to say, you're entitled to experiment with different styles on different days if you want to

Hey Elkie! You're now officially my style advisor! 😉
I have experimented with a number of styles... Broad necks... V necks... Black, pink, salmon, green... I like to wear different styles according to my mood. But there are some clothes that I won't definitevely be using again (long crochet grey skirt... what in the world was I thinking?).

I'm still discovering my style, and I feel that I'm getting closer. I like simple. I love wearing a dark top, skinny jeans, nice lipstick (thanks for you tips about the color!), a cute headscarf (at least for as long as I won't have a decently feminine hairline)... and the curves will do the rest! Yeah, the curves are very much work in progress, but I notice a difference and it makes me very happy. But I also like I like flowers, pink, salmon, mango, as long as there aren't too much patterns... I'll be posting a pic of me in an entirely different style, someday. 👧

BIG hug and thank you sooooo much for taking the time of thinking about my little dilemmas!

Sarah

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