I told my wife...

[Tommie_9]

Sending positive thoughts your way, Marci. I gradually came out to my wife over the last six months a little at a time. Like you, I finally had that deep conversation with her when I made the first appointment with my GT. I make sure we talk every day and that she's okay. It's kinda funny, but earlier today she said she needed to go out to get some makeup she was out of. I asked what kind, and it turns out, without me ever having looked to see what she uses, we use the same Cover Girl facial powder shade she was out of. So, she's borrowing mine. I never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be sharing MY makeup with my wife! I'm positive neither did she. I hope your situation turns out as well as mine.

Much love to you,

Tommie

[MandyD]

Marci - yes it's definitely tough and I just went through it myself.  My therapist recommended that I suggest to my wife that she sees a therapist that has expertise on spousal gender issues.   There is a lot of bad / false information on the internet that paints a fairly extreme picture of where you're headed (me too).

Her first appointment with the therapist is tomorrow - I'll let you know if it helps!

[Paige]

There is a lot of bad / false information on the internet that paints a fairly extreme picture of where you're headed (me too).

This should probably be it's own thread.  I know my wife has been reading SO forums on the internet that are pretty negative about the future of our relationship.

[Gertrude]

This should probably be it's own thread.  I know my wife has been reading SO forums on the internet that are pretty negative about the future of our relationship.

Yeah, I made the mistake of reading Helen Boyd and I said to myself, don't tell my wife about this one...Peggy Rudd or Leslie Fabian she ain't. She took the poison and hoped someone else died.


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[LindseyP]

Marci - yes it's definitely tough and I just went through it myself.  My therapist recommended that I suggest to my wife that she sees a therapist that has expertise on spousal gender issues.   There is a lot of bad / false information on the internet that paints a fairly extreme picture of where you're headed (me too).

Her first appointment with the therapist is tomorrow - I'll let you know if it helps!

Great news on your wife!  I've been after my wife to get her own therapist for a while now.  I got her a name earlier in the year per her request.  She just finally called and had her first appt. earlier this month and should have her third this week.  She doesn't want to talk to any of her friends about it, so this has been something that was going to be really important for our relationship in the long term. 

She didn't tell me until after she had the appointment that she made one.  I kind of get that impulse.  In any event, I am hopeful this will help her to not feel quite so alone with all of this.