Getting closer to the truth

[R W]

Hello everyone and Thank you for accepting me. I have been here before but was not nearly ready for the truth. There was a disagreement for which I take all responsibility. Anyway, I am glad to be where someone will understand what I am going thru.

I am 60, mtf, and I have been back in the closet for a while . I am still married to a great girl who does not want a woman in her bed. So far we are ok in our non-conventional relationship and get along well most days if I am not blatantly feminine around others. This is my 2nd time around and I will get it right if time allows me the ability. My dad died and we take care of some things for my mother and her mother depends upon us all hours of the day. We have alot going on everyday and Gender Dysphoria does not help. I have to say my wife tries to understand and takes care of me well, much better than just me alone.

I was on DIY hrt for just long enough to know it is right for me and am looking forward again to getting my meds filled properly!!! I have seen a therapist and she is waiting for me to go ahead with the process. Looks to me this time will be short. I have some modest growth in my chest, hips, and legs and am able to pass if I want to. I'm old and might not always feel like putting any makeup on.

I am so glad to be here again,
Randi

[V M]

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[R W]

Hello again! I have spent the past couple of days looking , reading up on the rules to live by, and remembering how much I need all of you! I am going back to my GP in September and will see what happens after that meeting. My therapist says she wants me to see a new doctor and suggested one who is trans friendly. If my current GP remains unwilling to help me this time I will see the new one just to at least get my testosterone in check-again. At least this time I have a much clearer picture of everything and since I no longer work in a job, I have plenty of time to study.

I am glad to see you are still here!
Randi

[Jailyn]

Hello again! I have spent the past couple of days looking , reading up on the rules to live by, and remembering how much I need all of you! I am going back to my GP in September and will see what happens after that meeting. My therapist says she wants me to see a new doctor and suggested one who is trans friendly. If my current GP remains unwilling to help me this time I will see the new one just to at least get my testosterone in check-again. At least this time I have a much clearer picture of everything and since I no longer work in a job, I have plenty of time to study.

I am glad to see you are still here!
Randi

Randi well welcome!!!! I can relate to you though we have an age gap but, I can relate totally your situation. Before I got married my soon to be wife found my ebay account and other things I had been looking up. She told me flat out I had to live as a male and she would not do it any other way. So I shut myself in a closet, deep down. We had many ups and downs but, Jailyn was always there. She was not going away. After our marriage fell apart I fell onto some emotional problems as many do in divorce. I eventually came out of it and I knew I had to make a change and I knew what I had to do for myself. I understand your desires and yearnings. You are in a great place here and it's a great support here. Welcome!!!!

[Kendra]

Hi Randi, welcome!

I am MTF, 54 a few days from now, and about to donate my old closet. 

I am sorry to hear your father passed away, that is unfortunate and never easy.  But you also have much good news and things to look forward to.

If my current GP remains unwilling to help me this time

If the request was outside their area of expertise they should have provided a referral.  If your previous request followed regular medical procedures, I don't understand how a medical professional can be unwilling to help.  Or maybe I misunderstood. 

Kendra

[R W]

Good morning Jailyn and Kendra! I hope you are well today. My wife is a good girl and we have been together for a long time we really do not have others to help much. She is aware of how GD effects me and to what degree and for now is being patient with the situation. She deserves better but I do what I can for her and her mother. Although I am old I have plenty to do that will help me feel feminine-no shortage of things to improve upon. My GP was totally against me doing anything but taking testosterone-but I ain't doin' that! Perhaps now he will see I am serious and determined.  I like the Nurse Practitioner who works there so would like to stay there for my meds. If not there is another doctor just down the street! I know what I have to do to get where I need to be and there is sunshine to see and rain to feel on my skin.

Right now my studies are going into the autistic spectrum and thinking that just maybe I was autistic and not diagnosed. That's what I'm studying right now.

R W

[Kendra]

I'm doing great, thank you! 

Your wife sounds very understanding.  You are fortunate to have a partner who cares about you in addition to expressing her own needs. 

And then there is your doctor.  This isn't for me to decide of course, but based on what you are saying it sounds like your doctor is thinking about their own self interests and not paying attention to yours.  In addition to transgender issues I would be concerned about the general competence of any medical professional doing what you describe.  Even if the nurse there is good, that's not enough if your General Practitioner doesn't care about you, or for you.  That's why the term Primary Care contains the word "care."  If I was in your shoes I would be putting on my running shoes - the ones with pink trim. 

I think your therapist is right.  You need to change doctors. 

Kendra