i beg you please help me

[zirconia]

Mil,

zirconia do you got better after puberty?

A bit, I think. Even so, the effects of the hormones remained very unpleasant. I played with girls when small, and thought of them as friends. I continued to think of them and treat those of them who accepted me as such both during and after puberty, but my body had begun to react it ways I didn't like. I believe I truly regained the calm I was used to only after I started taking female hormones.

are you the same person as before puberty? because I'm not the same peron like before pubert

Yes, I was and am the same person. If I weren't, what happened would not have bothered me and I might even have welcomed the changes. Instead, I could never relate to boys who wanted to grow up to become men.

[rose]

If you are lgbtq+ Don't waste your time in iraq now you are young  but when you grow up the society will expect from you to be STRAIGHT MAN

Save money and try to run I wish someone told me that when I was your age
I'm trans girl from middle eastern country too but mine are worst than your country Iraq
I cannot go out the home without fearing for my safety from people and the police as well
I couldn't complete college because of the daily harassment and transphobia
And I cannot report my abusers because
The police who suppose to protect me will aresst me instead because it's against the law to be lgbtq+

HIDE YOURSELF  be SAFE 

I know for fact now that I don't have life or future here I try to fight for my education and my freedom
But when the laws of your country put you in danger and treat you like criminal because you are lgbtq+
It's time to focus only on safety elsewhere

I'm sorry but if Iraq is similar to my country things will get harder from now on I cannot sugar coat it

[amandam]

Iraq is not an easy place to be transgender. Do NOT kill yourself. Make a goal of going to university in a Western European nation where transgender care is advanced and easily accessible. Forget the United States. The United States is a gamble.

I disagree. The US is much preferable to any country in the middle east. Go anywhere, including the US, just to get out of that place.

[mil]

I really plan to go to Europe or usa in future but how? I'm a trans women this is not easy for me lets say that Iraq legalized changing legal. if I change my self to a girl  in Iraq my parents will honor killing me and and lgbt cases in EUROPE and USA int esay to seek asylum

[amandam]

Be patient. You have time to plan this correctly and start gathering information. I think for now you have to act like the son your parents expect you to be. Play the game, and quietly plan. If you do this right, all your dreams will come true.

[mil]

amandam you are so right

[Kendra]

My suggestion is to study and prepare for the best possible college/university education. 

There are other ways to emigrate and potentially gain political asylum but qualifying for a foreign college is more reliable.  I am not an expert on political asylum (each country has different rules) but you don't want a situation where you apply for asylum and are rejected.  If you qualify for a good quality college you will be able to move to that country for at least four years and then look into ways to establish full citizenship.  Several countries place higher priority for people with a strong academic background.

[mil]

Kendra what are these countries that you are talking about ?

[Kendra]

Some of the same countries that offer partial or full legal protections for transgender individuals also have excellent colleges and universities.  That's why Western Europe on this thread.  I have also heard good things about Canada. 

I live in the US.  I would describe transgender protections here as ok but not great.  Some areas/states within the US are pretty good but you would be dealing with the federal/national government to obtain citizenship, and those policies might be better or worse in the future when you apply.  Several other countries are further ahead.

Another thing to consider is health care.  If you do qualify in the future to become a citizen of a different country, does that country consider health care to be a fundamental right of all citizens or not.  In the US you would be relying on private insurance.  The US has some of the highest costs in the world for medical procedures.  I am probably going to travel to Spain for my Facial Feminization Surgery.

[elkie-t]

I was growing up in a strong country during the decade of collapse of its economy. I was lucky that my education I got in my old country allowed me to get H1b (workers visa) to USA. It wasn't easy to find an employer and I had nobody in USA to support me or help me find a job or anything. The competition was brutal (only 60000 visas for the whole USA for a year and an employer would have to pay big money and wait for a year before you would join them - with no guarantee the quote won't be filled up). What can I say - don't give up, keep looking, there will be one way or another.


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