Not ready for the breasts

[rmaddy]

So I guess wearing a bra and having breasts is just one of those stages that I have to get used to. And move on. Just sometimes I look in the mirror and say to my self. "Yup them there are some boobs. Can't deny it anymore! Now how do I pull this off"?

Yep.  Puberty, the Sequel.  We get what we get!

[Lucy Ross]

Walmart's where I started shopping for undies in earnest.  The discount racks and self check mean you can buy cheap bras and panties without talking to anyone.

[RobynD]

Mine grew quickly and steadily also. I am now a 38D, and some measurements put me at a DD. There was a bit of shock there for me too but also a lot of joy about it. For me it was a partial catalyst to dress a bit more feminine, wear bras every day etc and deal with the reactions etc.

The other day i quickly threw on a dress and left the house and i was clearly leaving not a lot to the imagination up top. My boyfriend sort of kidded in a nice way, but i deserved it. Unless you want a lot more attention than normal, the outfit and the bra or lack thereof, has to be thought about.

For me, a little nudging into the future by my own body was a pretty good thing.

[Mariah]

Nope it isn't okay to do so. Hugs
Mariah

Oh, I wouldn't think of that. I was asking if it was okay to show them in a bra.

[AshleyP]

Oh, I wouldn't think of that. I was asking if it was okay to show them in a bra.

There's the bikini/swimsuit thread that's been around for a while:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190932.0.html

[Dena]

Oh, I wouldn't think of that. I was asking if it was okay to show them in a bra.

This is a family web site so the rule we moderate by is swimwear and street clothes are fine, nudity and underwear are not.

[Jacqueline]

Oh, I wouldn't think of that. I was asking if it was okay to show them in a bra.

gg,

It is a very slippery slope considering the material that many items defined as "bra" fits. So the rule on the site is if you would wear it outside in public(not a nudist area).  What that has come to mean is that clothed or bathing suits and depending on the taste of the garment, sports bras are occasionally allowed.

Warmly,

Jacqui

[Jacqueline]

Wow, sorry. I feel we all hit post and the same time.

Not trying to gang up on anyone.

Jacqui

[Nora Kayte]

So you guys(moderators) are not being very clear. Because there are some bathing suits that are way more reveling than any bra and panties would be. So what is it? To say a bikini top is ok but a bra is not just sounds wrong to me. Lol but that's just me. Lol


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[rmaddy]

So you guys(moderators) are not being very clear. Because there are some bathing suits that are way more reveling than any bra and panties would be. So what is it? To say a bikini top is ok but a bra is not just sounds wrong to me. Lol but that's just me. Lol

Not liking a rule doesn't mean that it is unclear.  I don't think that there is any doubt based on their posts how to follow it, i.e. it is very clear.

[Dena]

Sometimes we have a difficult time telling a bra and panties from a bikini and we get several moderators and administrators involved in the decision. I hate those calls because your never sure you got it right. Most of the time the underwear is naughty enough that we know it's not swimwear or the swimwear cut or pattern clearly indicates what it is. Nobody ever said being a moderator was easy and that's why it's so difficult to find people who we trust with the job.

[gg]

Sometimes we have a difficult time telling a bra and panties from a bikini and we get several moderators and administrators involved in the decision. I hate those calls because your never sure you got it right. Most of the time the underwear is naughty enough that we know it's not swimwear or the swimwear cut or pattern clearly indicates what it is. Nobody ever said being a moderator was easy and that's why it's so difficult to find people who we trust with the job.

Okay, I don't want to get off on the wrong foot with anyone - and I am not advocating changing any rules and I really don't mind about the bra rule, so please just understand that there is a part of me that has to point something out for my own sanity.

If you sometimes have a hard time telling a bra from a bikini, then what is the difference really? Also, what's "naughty" about a bra? I would think a better rule would be to just not allow naked breasts that expose anything from the nipple and below perhaps.

Also, it's been mentioned that this is a family site. Newspapers show ads of women in bras and so do family catalogs.

There. I said it. Please don't be personally offended and please don't run me out of dodge!

I'm a forum owner myself - two different ones going back 9 years and one has over 1 million posts. I know now hard it is to moderate a forum.

[Dena]

It's the sensitive nature of this site. We have parents with children who visit this site and what's worst, we have strongly religious people who view this site. We had a devil of a time getting this site off the black list so children could find it. In addition, my email provider (a once major one) had the site black listed and may still have it blocked to protect the children from corruption. It resulted in me not being able to create an account because my emails were blocked so I had have chat force me in. My email now has this site white listed so I am good but it took a while to untangle it.

Yes, the dividing line overlaps but it's the best we can do without adding the personal judgement of the staff into the mix. When that happens, one moderator may rule differently than another. At least the current rule has a clear dividing line.

[rmaddy]

Thanks for the explanations, Dena.  This is a privately run business and not a public square.  Susan an Co have the right to set rules to keep whatever sense of order that they desire.

Being a bit of a clown, I tend to trip over the occasional line in the sand.  IMO, the best response when a moderator intervenes is "Thank you.  I understand."

[SonadoraXVX]

Well, ladies, I have been on hrt for the past 4 years, going on 5 at the end of November. Not only do your boobs grow, my clothes hang differently, especially around my leg area and I'm very much smoother in appearance, and long hair. I wear very loose dress shirts and slacks, but I always make it a habit to wear a windbreaker jacket. I also have long hair. Off work, I wear Hawaiian shirts and it does seem to hide my growth, but I'm pretty sure I'm a solid b, or tanner 3, at my age. Helps if I'm overweight, but only so much, since I'm tall too, at 5' 10". I wear a sleeveless white tshirt underneath(acts like a bra of sorts), over  white vneck tshirt, then the dress shirt, which works pretty well, for most situations.

[Nora Kayte]

Not liking a rule doesn't mean that it is unclear.  I don't think that there is any doubt based on their posts how to follow it, i.e. it is very clear.

Never said I don't like the rule. I don't care. So to think you know what I'm thinking is wrong. And something being clear or not depends on the person. Just because it's clear to you does not mean it's clear to others. There are a lot of people on this site that English is not their native tongue.


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[freebird]

I struggled with my breast readiness and I have come to the conclusion to not worry about it. As my breasts get larger I just need to revel in the knowledge that I am becoming who I want to be. Sure I get some odd looks from time to time but I have started saying to myself "Yep those are mine. Pretty nice aren't they?". I have been doing this over the past couple of weeks and I feel much better. I hope this helps..

[Jacqueline]

Never said I don't like the rule. I don't care. So to think you know what I'm thinking is wrong. And something being clear or not depends on the person. Just because it's clear to you does not mean it's clear to others. There are a lot of people on this site that English is not their native tongue.


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Alright ladies. Let's give this a rest. We have clarified what we can about that policy. Speaking of policies and such, I would like to remind every one to not get too personally upset about comments here. This is a personally owned site. As such the rules are defined by that person, Susan. It is to try to keep this a safe place. While discussing this, I want to include three parts of the Terms of Service:

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Whew. I feel better. I got all those rules out of my  system. We travel a tough path. Lets not make it tougher for ourselves or each other.

Warmly,

Jacqueline

[Nora Kayte]

I struggled with my breast readiness and I have come to the conclusion to not worry about it. As my breasts get larger I just need to revel in the knowledge that I am becoming who I want to be. Sure I get some odd looks from time to time but I have started saying to myself "Yep those are mine. Pretty nice aren't they?". I have been doing this over the past couple of weeks and I feel much better. I hope this helps..

Made me smile. Thank you. And your right. I have been trying to adopt that attitude this last week.


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[Nora Kayte]

This is me in my 38C bra. In a tank top. So it should be legal.
A couple of my friends may have seen it already. Probably to close. The skin looks bad even though I moisturize a lot.


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