Confusion and other issues

[ari-argonian]

Okay, so I am 15 y/o and I am FTM. About a year ago, I came out to my parents as agender, I was kind of in denial and stuff, and only really realized I was actually trans a few months ago. All my friends I had already come out to are accepting, they are fine with me being FTM.
The problem is with my parents. They are accepting of LGBT people, though they still call me she, and call me my dead name and stuff :/  I am sure they would be ok with me being trans, I just don't know how to explain that I am not actually NB and that I was just in denial and stuff... Could I have some help and advice?

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Explain that self discovery takes time and is often a matter of picking a label, wearing it for a while to see how it fits. It's not uncommon for members of this site to first consider the non binary only to discover latter that they are more toward the binary than they thought.

It would be more beneficial for you  to explore yourself with a gender therapist as you would have more knowledge to draw from in while you explore your feelings.

In any case, there are a couple of links that might help you. The first is our WIKI where the word transgender is defined. The second link is "the transition channel" where a gender therapist will help you explore your feelings. Your parents might find it interesting to explore these links with you and compare their answers to yours.

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[Artesia]

Ari, are you really an Argonian?  That name doesn't really fit the Argonian culture.  Were you raised by an Altmer?

Sorry, couldn't resist.  Welcome to Susan's place.  I have the same issue with my dad and brother.  The persist in using male pronouns, despite being asked to otherwise not.  My dad being the worst offender.  My mom avoids all pronouns, but hasn't yet used my true name.  My brother slips back and forth between both.  My dad makes it a point to use son, as often as possible.  My sister has only used my birth name, and old pronouns a few times.  It is something that will take time, they have 15 years, 43 for me, of habit to break.  Just gently remind them of your preference, I don't do it every time, but with my dad it might be necessary.  Give them time.

[MeTony]

Just tell them how it is. That you have discovered this. Selfknowledge and insight takes time. Sometimes a very long time.

As said, they have 15 years of her and now need to relearn to him.

I have 40 years behind me in the "girl-box". Butch bi/lesbian girl box. But I have finally found myself and feel self confident. I know who I am. Time is your friend. As time passes and you explore yourself you will know yourself better and can tell other people who you are in a confident and serious way.

Have you had a serious talk to your parents about this? That you are a he and not a she?

Tony (omw out to the world, but not there yet)