A couple of weeks ago I come how from work and can tell my wife has something on her mind. We eat dinner, hang out as a family and put my (2yo) daughter to bed. Then, "we need to talk".
Now, I have been seeing a therapist for about 6 maybe 7 months. I have been trying to build up the courage and pick the right timing to tell her. I have written her a letter, a little of a rough draft, but the basics are there. I just can't seem to get it out.
She asks me, "is there something you need to tell me?" I just come out and say it. "For years I have been fighting this"... "I have been trying to find the right words"... "let me read this letter I wrote".
After a bunch of tears, on both sides of the couch we start to get out real words. She is happy I am seeing a therapist. And asks about transistioning. She has had a couple transgender coworkers. She tells me she fully supports me. I tell her she can tell her best friend, but no one else. She agrees.
Now, after the first week we talk about it again. She has been reading SO forums and blogs. She relates to them. She tells me she doe not want to be with a woman. Has no interest in it. And that she is in mourning for loosing her husband. She is loosing sleep and tells me she cant focus at work.
After the second week things get a little better. She enjoys me being more open, but still has a little break down. But at the end of the weeks asks to see me clothes.
Now, in the third week, I am sitting here dressed waiting for her to come home. I warned her first though. I know it will still be a shock.
