Lovely article I came across in my Medium feed

[SadieBlake]

Url https://psiloveyou.xyz/twined-fragments-sex-love-romance-c292698d8f1a

This is a project of two trans women writing their experiences in a collaboration. Everything they write speaks to me, especially this:

I know it's not fair, I tell her, but you're in a lesbian relationship now. That's how we'll be seen. Will you be gay with me?

She's hesitant to accept a label that others fight hard for. I recognize this fear — an excuse that held me back for years, afraid that transition was for cases more extreme than mine, more certain. As though gender and sexuality are badges to be earned through pain alone.

We find our lesbian selves in bed, a whole new layer to the relationship.

I wonder if anyone here would be interested in joining me for doing something like this?

[Steph Eigen]

I found this entry particularly compelling:

"He is stronger than I am, bigger than I am, harder than I am. He is not a hitter, not even a yeller. He is sweet, calm, firm, convincing. His violence is in his expectations. Which are non-negotiable. In the home my duties are clear. Likewise in the bedroom.

His morning kisses are kind, gentle. His night kisses are like hammers, like drills. I prefer face-to-face. He requires...otherwise. It's isolating, painful. He doesn't even reach around.

Shockingly, I am OK with the situation.

At first I think this is new. Then I realise: I've been here before.

#Allison #2009"

Sadie,

You should develop a similar project.  You write well and have a depth of accrued experience that would be of interest and benefit to others.  I wish I could help you with it.   I have to say, I don't bear the qualifications to do so based on my experience and choices.

Steph