@ sylvia, relationships are complicated. good relationships take work, things like unconditional love, compatibility, and communication are very often taken for granted or discounted. i work hard in my relationships. sometimes too hard. it's challenging to find the balance. i have a tendency to be clingy. it's definitely work to keep myself in check sometimes. but it's drama free for the most part.
my girlfriend is a very independent, smart and beautiful woman. the bones of the relationship are easy because we respect each others boundaries, wants, needs and we try to be thoughtful with each other. it's so easy to be supportive when you love and want the best for your partner(s).
i don't think you are still in the "denial" stage. honestly, i think you're past that now and in the "what the hell do i do now?" stage. everything is changing, your partner is changing. and you're questioning whether or not you can be in a relationship that doesn't fit in societies definitions. no one can answer that but you. but know that you aren't alone.
