I screwed up volunteering

[noitsbecky]

i live a stealth life when it comes to being trans. but i am out as pansexual and have been in a lesbian relationship for almost a decade with my wife.  today a co worker asked me on behalf of her daughter ( who is in high school and i know quite well) that her daughter would like me to speak to her class for a presentation on my story as a member of the lgbt.  They also invited a transgender girl who i work with, (who has no idea i am trans) to speak on transgender issues. 

Problem, i said yes in the heat of the moment but i feel like a hypocrite how can i go in front of these kids and present my story and leave out a third of my life it just feels cowardice to me.  im not sure what i should do? what would you do? im freaking out a bit.

Thanks
Lilly

[Megan.]

You're there to speak about your sexuality,  and there is someone else there to talk about gender. I think that's great for the kids to hear about both things. You're being generous sharing alot about your private life,  but that doesn't have to mean everything. I don't see any issue,  you're stealth,  many Trans* are,  that's fine. Just beware your colleague may raise that point. Don't stress it. X

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[Natsuki Kuga]

Yeah, that's a toughie. I do applaud your sensitivity towards the kids and the situation, though. Not everyone would be able to do it with such class.

In my experience, you gotta read the room. If they're expecting to learn only about your lesbian life  experience, I'd contain my remarks to that.

Your co-speaker may be providing sufficient TG content, but if I were willing to out myself to her, and if the organizers wanted more TG insights, you might offer to supply some.

Pansexual? I'd want to check that out real good with the teacher first. Most people haven't even heard about pansexualism. And when it's new, it's frightening. And when new and frightening get applied to my children, without my explicit knowledge beforehand, i go down to the school and I take heads

So i think you're right in putting what the audience needs and how much it can handle above the desire to show them the whole picture.

You've traveled a long enough, hard enough road to reach a Happy Place. I think you're doing right generous by letting little minds, learning minds, a chance to see that even sexual minorities aren't frightful monsters.



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[noitsbecky]

Thank you both for your incite and taking the time out of your day to help.  I think i will leave the TG aspect of the presentation to my co worker.  and just focus on the material that i hope they will prepare.
its a bit stressful but i ultimately think it will be beneficially to some kid who maybe in the closet that it gets better.

Thank you
Lilly 

[Laurie]

Yeah, that's a toughie. I do applaud your sensitivity towards the kids and the situation, though. Not everyone would be able to do it with such class.

In my experience, you gotta read the room. If they're expecting to learn only about your lesbian life  experience, I'd contain my remarks to that.

Your co-speaker may be providing sufficient TG content, but if I were willing to out myself to her, and if the organizers wanted more TG insights, you might offer to supply some.

Pansexual? I'd want to check that out real good with the teacher first. Most people haven't even heard about pansexualism. And when it's new, it's frightening. And when new and frightening get applied to my children, without my explicit knowledge beforehand, i go down to the school and I take heads

So i think you're right in putting what the audience needs and how much it can handle above the desire to show them the whole picture.

You've traveled a long enough, hard enough road to reach a Happy Place. I think you're doing right generous by letting little minds, learning minds, a chance to see that even sexual minorities aren't frightful monsters.



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