Hi Becca
Don't be so hard on yourself, we all feel horrible from time to time...there is no amount of makeup I can use to scrub away what 40+ years of testosterone and no care, has done to my appearance. However what I can do is improve my general appearance with the right combination of makeup.
It takes time to learn this stuff. I know everyone suggests online tutorials but I have to say the best advice I got was from a makeup artist who showed me (once) how to apply various items. The thing that helped the most is a very simple but well illustrated book showing how to apply the very basics of makeup. This book does not care if you spill something on it or drop it or run out or power, it fits in a bag , its simple and straight forward and very portable.
The other thing that helped is practice, expensive does not always equal the best when it comes to makeup. My favourite foundation is a $10 Target brand, it goes on better than my very expensive MAC foundation. I started my using one element at a time, Eyeliner , wearing BB cream or light foundation is a really good place to start. When you feel you have it working well, add another element. It won't take long before you have it working for you. Try a lipstick that is a similar colour to the inside of your bottom lip. Getting colours that work for you is nothing but trial and error.
Quote from: Becca Kay on December 30, 2017, 03:09:47 PM
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I was soooo happy to start HRT. And it really has changed my mental state. It's amazing. I don't want to go back. But now i'm starting to realize the easy part is over. Coming out is gonig to be tough because it will mean that I have to accept myself, at least most of myself, as I am.
i'm so damn sad right now.
Self acceptance is possibly one of the hardest thing for many of us to do. I know I struggled with it for a long time and even now I still have days where I have to actively use some of the techniques my therapist taught me to get through them. Sometimes something will happen that hits you hard and bumps you into negative thinking.
I started working on my self acceptance a few years ago now by using positive affirmations. I searched the net, wrote them up on my PC, printed them off and put them in old photo frames in my line of sight to remind me...things like
"We are shaped by our thoughts. We become what we think" and "What's in a name that which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet" another opld one "There is no definitive answer to being transgender"
I know it can sound weird but they do help, You can't help being who you are. You can spend this one and only life you have been given thinking about who you might have been or spend it being that person. It is going to be tough, difficult and at times disheartening, but when you get to a place where you find the dysphoria begins to leave you then you don't want to ever go back. I hope you can finds that space soon.