Quote from: Charlie Nicki on April 04, 2019, 01:55:17 PM
So today I was going through really old pictures of mine, pics from 5-6 years ago and I got this feeling of sadness inside...I don't know how to explain it but almost like mourning my old life and my old self? Reminiscing of the times when life was a lot easier and hoping it was still the case. It seems like I still struggle with accepting my new life and letting go of the old one, and it's tough to completely let go, because it was a great life. I was a handsome man, successful and had everything in the world; now I struggle to see myself as a beautiful and successful woman who has everything in the world as well.
Is this familiar? Have you guys felt this?
Oh yes, very much so. I wasn't all that successful or good looking, and my marriage wasn't all that great, but life was so simple.
What triggered it was an old picture with a couple of my neighbors. I was wearing my comfy jeans, a loose button down shirt, my signature baseball cap, and worn tennis shoes. My neighbors were smiling, and I was, too, despite the noise in my head. They accepted me, knew my name, and were comfortable with me, despite our differences.
I could get out of bed, skip shaving if I didn't feel like it, throw on some comfy clothes, and go out into the world with no worries. So easy.
Looking at that picture induced a meltdown.
But I was so unhappy back then. The further I move into transition, and the more I find old friends learning to accepting me, and the more new friends I gain to replace those who are now uncomfortable with me, the more I understand that I've done the right thing. This week has been pretty incredible, and I'll write more about it on my own thread when I can, but the "new simplicity" that comes with becoming more comfortable with myself and my new world makes the early, harder days of transition seem small and more insignificant as they recede into the past.
So keep moving forward. You'll find that the future days that are good will grow to far outnumber the bad ones.
Stephanie