Learning about friends kinks and fetishes

[sarah1972]

So, here is an odd question:

In the process of coming out, a few of my friends totally opened up and I now know all details of their kinks, preferences, relationships and sex life.

It still strikes me a bit odd. Is this just them trying to relate or returning my openness? My transition is in no way sexual...

[Oblivion]

Some people are just very, very confused about transgender people and transitioning. It baffles me the things they'll come out with. Did you explain to them that this is who are you are it's not part or your sexuality or really anything sexual whatsoever? Might be worth bringing up exactly what it means to be trans if that's what they're relating it to. You could be right in thinking it's them being more open with you and returning the favour but im not sure how them shouting about their sex life could be called a favour haha. Id have a chat with them if you're close to them and just ask them if they've got any questions and do your best to educate.

[Charlie Nicki]

Is this just them trying to relate or returning my openness?

This is probably the reason. People tend to value honesty and openness, and they might have felt closer to you after your coming out therefore wanting to share a secret as well.

[Megan.]

So, here is an odd question:

In the process of coming out, a few of my friends totally opened up and I now know all details of their kinks, preferences, relationships and sex life.

It still strikes me a bit odd. Is this just them trying to relate or returning my openness? My transition is in no way sexual...

You're not alone. It's either the fact they just feel that level of trust with us,  which is  positive. Or that yes,  they are conflating gender and sexuality.

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[Devlyn]

I think it's an acknowledgement that you're being open and honest, so they are too.
Rope, by the way. I like rope. Nice to meet you!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Zoetrope]

A major part of my life and awakening over the past 5 years or so ... and sadly its taboo!

[SadieBlake]

I'm sure your friends are just returning openness.

And plenty of us are kinky. I happened to discover that about my sexuality at the same time I realized and came out about being trans and I certainly conflated them myself.

This isn't unusual, plenty of women explore sexually as they're realizing they're trans. I know not everyone who's trans is happy about that and certainly I don't like being the object of ignorant fetishes, then again having my own kinks, I've learned that it's better to educate people about us than judging them.

[sarah1972]

That is how I see it...

Nice meeting you Devlyn! I am Sarah and I am boring (now that my slut phase is over). But then Ropes are still on my bucket list 

I think it's an acknowledgement that you're being open and honest, so they are too.
Rope, by the way. I like rope. Nice to meet you!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Roll]

Rope, by the way. I like rope. Nice to meet you!

To use as a restraint, or do you see a piece of twine and think "Mmm, that's a sexy clove hitch"?

[Dee Marshall]

I knew all my friends' kinks long before I knew that I'm trans, but I have noticed since that people who find out that you're trans do feel more comfortable telling you about their differences.

Regarding the sub-topic about rope, (pun not intended but I wish I had actually thought of it), being tied up brings back memories of childhood abuse but I don't mind if other people do it.

:

April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!

Think outside the voice box!

[Kylo]

Quite a few people out there are still under the impression transsexualism is all about cross dressing and some sort of obsession with gender bending. Maybe that's why they thought it was you opening up about a kink, and thought they should/could reciprocate info. But also it could be just that it's a very personal admission, and they also decided to share some personal admissions.

[Roll]

Since I first read this, I kept picturing it over and over in my head as though it were a comedy sketch or scene from a movie. (Person 1: "I'm transgender." Person 2: "I really like to be spanked." Person 3: "I'm heavily involved in the adult baby scene, and am wearing a diaper right now." Person 1: "Uhhh, good to know. Thanks for sharing, I guess?")

I feel like I've seen something that was pretty close to this at some point, maybe multiple times, but I really can't remember what. The only thing that occurred to me is a scene from near the end of the 90's movie Airheads (Brendan Fraser, Adam Sandler, Steve Buscemi, etc). The main character has a reveal that he used to be a nerd, and the crowd chimes in for support with their own personal pasts of being less than cool ("I used to play D&D too!"). And then there is one guy who goes waaaay too personal and misses the point entirely. Not quite the same, bit similar, though don't think it is what I am mostly thinking of, as I feel as though I've seen something dealing specifically with escalating fetishes and it's driving me nuts I can't remember what it was.

[sarah1972]

OMG... I have a very vivid phantasy. That would have been stuck in my head forever.

It was not that bad but it did come close. I still think it is more a gratitude for being so open. And since being trans is still so rare, they seem to believe I can relate or be as accepting as they are.

Since I first read this, I kept picturing it over and over in my head as though it were a comedy sketch or scene from a movie. (Person 1: "I'm transgender." Person 2: "I really like to be spanked." Person 3: "I'm heavily involved in the adult baby scene, and am wearing a diaper right now." Person 1: "Uhhh, good to know. Thanks for sharing, I guess?")

[natalie.ashlyne]

Yes I have learned some things about my friends and there husbands fetishes and fantasy. A few days ago I was at my cis female friends house when her husband came home early from work. He knew me before I went full time. He as not seen me in 8 months when he saw me as a girl his jaw dropped, he was very polite talking to me than he started talking about sex and how he wanted me in a 3 way with his wife. I thought he was joking but he has been asking her if I would consider it. I never would have thought he would even speak to me after he found out I was transgender but ya I was wrong.

[Devlyn]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

[natalie.ashlyne]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

Well see I like to be watched the more people watching the better I am very submissive.

[Dena]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

If I were to write about my sex life, it would be a book full of blank pages.   

[Devlyn]

Cool, we can draw Natalie! 

[NikkiB51]

Very submissive and voyeuristic

[sarah1972]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

Ok, ok... I own two custom made latex catsuits... have not worn them since starting transition. Maybe I should, they are made for a B cup...