Learning about friends kinks and fetishes

[Roll]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.

Well, while it's not so much a fetish as a fantasy, there is this one thing involving three bowling pins, a life size cardboard cut out of Wilma Flintstone, and a posh elderly British gentleman dressed as a Roman Gladiator...

[Zoetrope]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

I was trying to be coy ... you will get me into terrible trouble Devlyn ;~)

In short, I'm in a long term relationship with a Daddy Dom where I take the role of his pet.

I also work part-time as a Dominatrix.

So ... it would be easier to list the things I haven't tried ...

[Megan.]

I'm  a competitive person,  but I can see I'm not winning this...
In terms of sex, missionary in a bed is about as wild as I've got (in my previous gender role).
In terms of fantasies, I used to have a few,  but well I just don't any more... wonders of AAs I guess...

Always happy to be corrupted though [emoji48]

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[natalie.ashlyne]

Cool, we can draw Natalie! 

Well I have a lot more i like to be tied up I like to be whipped bitten hair pulled smacked on my butt and more guess it is your turn😛

[Cindy]

My first introduction into fetish was also bondage. Me being bound up - his idea. I couldn't stop laughing. I ended up with me laughing at a sad droop and he had put a mask on and had a whip. I thought it was hilarious.

I don't think I helped his ego.

[Megan.]

My first introduction into fetish was also bondage. Me being bound up - his idea. I couldn't stop laughing. I ended up with me laughing at a sad droop and he had put a mask on and had a whip. I thought it was hilarious.

I don't think I helped his ego.

Haha.
I think I'd be up for trying most things if a partner wanted to. My only exception is pain, not my thing; if doing something hurts, then I'm stopping.

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[sarah1972]

Same here. Took about 2 month HRT and I lost most interest in anything considered Fetisch. I settle for some cuddling these days... maybe some of it come back one day...

In terms of fantasies, I used to have a few,  but well I just don't any more... wonders of AAs I guess...


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[natalie.ashlyne]

Same here. Took about 2 month HRT and I lost most interest in anything considered Fetisch. I settle for some cuddling these days... maybe some of it come back one day...

I totally understand  I love to cuddle even more I would prefer  it to sex but if someone cuddles with me really well than that gets me turned on and the more I get turned on the more I am willing to do just have to hit the right buttons. I could not be the one that starts sex at this point

[Bari Jo]

I won't go into detail, but I spent years trying to out kink my desire to be trans.  I had a couple girlfriends I met on alt dot com too.  I think I've just about experienced everything intensely.  Advice, play safe, and make sure you can trust your play partner.  Without that trust the enjoyable play can be terrifying.  As you can see by me being here the kinks and fetish never overtook my desire to be a girl.

[MaryT]

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

Goodness! What would mummy say?  I'm the prim type who has never had any fantasies or fetishes.

Oh all right, you can stop beating me with the rope!  I sometimes fantasized about men's feet.  I was always afraid that it is a gay thing rather than a trans thing, as even cis women don't like men's feet.  I was never able to indulge that fetish, though.  And I used to fantasize about being shipwrecked with a chest full of sun dresses and at least one sailor.  Shut up Mary, shut up shut up shut up!

[Ryuichi13]

Fetishes. 

Wow. 

I wasn't quite sure we could talk about such things here!

Lately, I suppose I can say I've found videos online of cis men having anal sex with "toys" that I really enjoy watching.  I freely admit to having voyeristic tendencies, even pre-T, but now its ramped up to another level entirely!

Ryuichi

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[Julia1996]

What a interesting thread. Thank you for sharing everyone. My boyfriend has a lot of kinks. When I first started dating him I came really close to dumping him because of it. I had no experience with bondage and kink and I'm ashamed now to admit it, but at the time I considered BDSM deviant behavior. The only experience I had with it was from movies. Much like how movies portray us, they portrayed people into S&M as weirdos and pervs.

After we talked about it I understood it better and he slowed down with it and eased me into it. He has quite a few kinks but I wouldn't say they are fetishes. The real fetish for him is the control/domination. His kinks are just part of that. The fact that he's kinky at such a young age makes me wonder if it's something that's inborn in people who like kink.

Since everyone else shared I will too. Tristan's kinks are bondage/restraint, role play, interrogation play, blindfolds, tickling, spanking (not hard), ice, wax, leather, sensory deprivation and a couple that aren't appropriate to mention on the open forum.

My kinks, ...........(crickets chirping)......... I don't have any. I don't mind his kinks because he likes them so much but I don't find them sexually arousing. A couple of them I don't especially like but I compromise. The only thing that I actually find arousing is regular kissing & foreplay. I'm just dull and boring I guess.  :eusa_shifty:So we switch off. Sometimes we just have regular old sex and then sometimes I let him restrain me.

I did hook up with a guy who had a fetish before I transitioned.  He liked for someone to fart in his face. I'm not kidding. It didn't go very far because as soon as he told me that I couldn't stop laughing. I felt bad for laughing at him but I totally couldn't help it.

[amberwaves]

In terms of fantasies, I used to have a few,  but well I just don't any more...

I find this rings far too true.  I used to be very open to experimentation.  I wasn't overly kinky, but I did enjoy anal play and the occasional dressing.  I still enjoy anal play.  Turns out the dressing wasnt a kink, but me trying to tell me to be me.

Nowadays, I  don't really have much in the way of fantasies.  Certainly they don't happen often.  Occasionally, there is the thought of bringing someone else into bed with my wife and I.  Sometimes its a lady, sometimes a man, and sometimes a transwoman.  None are a likely scenario to actually happen.

Truth be told the one about bringing a man into play scares me because I legitimately have no idea how to act in that scenario.  Also, I am okay with being submissive with a woman, but scared to with a guy.  Also, I just generally don't find men attractive.  Only about 4 times has that occurred.  Perhaps things will change after surgery. 

Fwiw, life is good and I see no reason to screw with things.

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[Kendra]

> Much like how movies portray us, they portrayed people into S&M as weirdos and pervs.

Exactly.  The media set society back by perpetuating the wrong image.  Among the right people and with consent, twisted stuff can be a blast.

I lived with a professional dominatrix for four years... she moved in with me.  I wasn't a client, we of course played but had a normal (sort of) and very committed relationship.  And lemme tell ya, the "how was your day at work dear" conversations could get interesting.  We are still great friends but moved on.  For the past 1-1/2 years I've been dating a wonderful male/female married couple and they are very active in the kink community.

When does this stuff start.  I've met people who put up with it while dating then bailed (my ex-wife).  I've met people who had no idea and then really got into it once things clicked (couple of ex-girlfriends) - and never stopped.  My own memories are quite vivid back to age 4 and my mind started wandering just a bit in that direction back then, and quite a lot by age 10. 

HRT hasn't diminished my drive at all.  If anything, amplified as my physical whole-body sensations are stronger.  Cuddling?  Sure, I'll call it forced cuddling 

Julia - on that past no-go hookup with someone into gaseous play... I hope he wasn't a smoker.

[Julia1996]

Exactly.  The media set society back by perpetuating the wrong image.  Among the right people and with consent, twisted stuff can be a blast.

I lived with a professional dominatrix for four years... she moved in with me.  I wasn't a client, we of course played but had a normal (sort of) and very committed relationship.  And lemme tell ya, the "how was your day at work dear" conversations could get interesting.  We are still great friends but moved on.  For the past 1-1/2 years I've been dating a wonderful male/female married couple and they are very active in the kink community.

When does this stuff start.  I've met people who put up with it while dating then bailed (my ex-wife).  I've met people who had no idea and then really got into it once things clicked (couple of ex-girlfriends) - and never stopped.  My own memories are quite vivid back to age 4 and my mind started wandering just a bit in that direction back then, and quite a lot by age 10. 

HRT hasn't diminished my drive at all.  If anything, amplified as my physical whole-body sensations are stronger.  Cuddling?  Sure, I'll call it forced cuddling 

Julia - on that past no-go hookup with someone into gaseous play... I hope he wasn't a smoker.

No, he didn't smoke. I wouldn't hook up with a smoker. Only because the stale cigarette smell makes me sick. When my dad still smoked that smell would gross me out when he kissed and hugged me. And he usually kisses me on the top of my head. I can't even imagine what it would smell like to mouth kiss a smoker.  Eww.  Why did you ask? Do smokers have really rank farts?  I swear Tristan's farts smell worse after he's been eating vegemite. Lol

[Kendra]

I asked about smoking because gas near something burning can be an explosive combination.    

[Roll]

I asked about smoking because gas near something burning can be an explosive combination.   

... I just suddenly remembered the gerbil rocket myth... (Google it, I'm not getting a smite for linking it here. )

[MaryT]

So, here is an odd question:

In the process of coming out, a few of my friends totally opened up and I now know all details of their kinks, preferences, relationships and sex life.

It still strikes me a bit odd. Is this just them trying to relate or returning my openness? My transition is in no way sexual...

Deja vu all over again, eh, Sarah?  We are just trying to relate and return your openness. 

I kinda wish more people would post about their fetishes.
I feel like I'm in front of a crowd with my pants down.
Another one of my fetishes. 

On another forum, the subject of forced feminization came up, and I wanted to learn more about it, but I and others among the curious were rightly informed that it was not the right forum for satisfying our curiosity.  I remember some of us being worried that a feminization fetishist might go further than originally intended and regret it, but I think that we were corrected on that point.  Perhaps someone could start a topic where we can learn about it in a non-judgmental way.  Many years ago, I had a lovely dream in which I woke up in hospital and doctors told me that they had accidentally given me a sex change.  With hindsight, that was a sort of forced feminization fantasy.

[Roll]

There is a thread somewhere here about the poster engaging in forced feminization on their partner, leading the partner to start to transition, then the partner regretting it and transitioning back. Was a, uhhh... interesting... read.

[Tammy Jade]

Well considering everyone else is sharing my wife (who will probably end up reading this) and I have a pretty normal non kinky sex life.

I am definitely the one who was into kink, only minor stuff: being tied/restrained, spanking, ice, being submissive and a couple of other things.   We don't really do much / any and that's fine. I have however noticed that since I have accepted myself the attraction to those sorts of things has greatly diminished with one exception.

The main thing for me now & this maybe isn't so much a kink as just my own weirdness but I find it very disphoric to be in the top male missionary position these days and it's so overwhelming that just the thought of doing it makes the mood disappear.

Maybe I'm just weird.
-Mara


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