Mannerisms which "defy" identity?

[extraaction]

I have mannerisms that out me but I find policing my behavior oppressive

[LadyGreen]

What is "Pommy?"

Ryuichi

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Pom or pommy is Australian slang for people from the UK

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[Ryuichi13]

Pom or pommy is Australian slang for people from the UK

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OH, okay!  Thanks!

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[RedSoxMichael]

My mannerisms, no. But I've been told by my brother and my dad that my sense of humor is more on the masculine side though my boyfriend loves it.  I love watching World's dumbest. People falling, guys smashing their oysters and people doing a face plant are totally hilarious to me. I don't think it's necessarily masculine to find that stuff so funny but if so I don't really care. I'm not going to act like I don't find it funny no matter what anyone thinks. Trans people are too obsessed with "proper" female/male behavior. There are a lot of behaviors that are important for passing but when it's to the extent that you worry about everything you say and do, that's just as bad as the prison we were in before transition.

That's just total dumb stereotype territory. Plenty of women are into slapstick humor (Three Stooges, Jackass). And plenty of men can't stand it. I think liking that kind of humor can be a bit of an age thing, too, as a lot of people age out of it. But of course ... proper ladies would never laugh at a pratfall. (This makes me think about how supposedly sophisticated people like mime acts, and mime acts are all about physical humor, but you see it's sophisticated, because it's French.)

[RedSoxMichael]

I work with customers who are strangers all day and I've had to work on my persona. I had a habit of talking in an overly feminine manner to create this hard shell and boundary between myself and the customer. "Just being myself" doesn't necessarily work in this environment so I've had to create a new, male persona to interact with customers. I smile and lot and I'm friendly. But I still struggle with voice pitch because it's natural to elevate your pitch when you're trying to placate somebody. The thing is, that persona was never really "me" and I don't act/talk like that at all when I'm relaxing off the job.

I got punished a lot for having too masculine a communication style (even by people who supposedly knew my identity). I guess I came from an environment where just being male was not okay. I'm not blaming feminism here--it's much more complex than that--but I do believe that maleness itself should not be made suspect.

I feel like I'm a fairly androgynous person who happens to be male. I sometimes dress more butch than I feel like because I'm afraid of what other people will think. I feel like if I can get my body to look more masculine then I can be a bit freer with clothing choices.

[iamthatiam8]

Mornin',

I thought it was time I started a less self-serving thread. I was debating whether or not to post this on the transgender board, but I think it would better apply to those starting medical transition. For everyone, really.

(I'm pretty blunt, so I apologize in advance.)

Anyway, I was described as bear-like the other day thanks to my overprotective nature. Which, frankly, was a huge compliment. People who knew me prior to transition are concerned I'm detransitioning since I've a adopted a lot of masculine mannerisms, but this is quite contrary. The boy I was is a delicate dandelion, the woman I've become is tough and dependable. It's not regression, but progress.

Does anyone have any mannerisms which defy what's typically expected of you? How does your ability to pass factor into this? How do other people react to your potentially androgynous nature?

its so cool that you said that. My boy self was always afraid and soft. After almost 3 years on hormones I'm like a beast a total tomboy im one of thise anime girl that is so tough everybody is scared of. Like sakura from naruto.