regretting not transitioning earlier in life

[KathyLauren]

I am almost 60. I've known what I am since I was 5-6 years old (I did not have a vocabulary for it until the Rene Richards tennis controversy in 1974). There was little available literature back then, so I buried me under a male persona. Married. Kids. Divorced. One disabled child still lives with me and probably always will. Just passed my 5th anniversary with a new, wonderful woman. Yet a day doesn't go by without regretting what could have been. Most days there is a persistent (low level) sadness. I'm pretty sure I will die with these regrets, with this sadness. But it's too late for me. If you're younger, act and act now!

Hi, Diane!

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I was 61 when I first realized for real that I was transgender.  Prior to that, I just wondered and had been mostly in denial.  Now, at 63, I am transitioning, living full-time as a woman, and enjoying life for the first time. 

Age alone is not a reason not to transition.  I realize that there are lots of other factors that may prevent it, but age isn't one of them.

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[Amoré]

One of the nice things about my transition that is a positive I transitioned when my child was 2 years old she doesn't know the old me. I showed her a picture the other day and she asked me who is he. She knows at the age of 4 now that the doctor made me a girl. But she sees me as a woman and nothing less.

[Roll]

One of the nice things about my transition that is a positive I transitioned when my child was 2 years old she doesn't know the old me. I showed her a picture the other day and she asked me who is he. She knows at the age of 4 now that the doctor made me a girl. But she sees me as a woman and nothing less.

This is something that crossed my mind with my sister and any future children she has (which she is the kind of person to get married and want kids early, so even though shes just about to start college is probably going to be not too far out). My nephews from my older brother are already about to graduate high school and it will be rough going from uncle to aunt. But the idea that my sister could have children that will only know me post transition is just amazing to me even just as a pure hypothetical. (And no, that math is not off. My nephews and my sister are the same age.)

[KatieD]

I doubt there are any transwomen that don't wish they were given testosterone blockers before puberty and estrogen starting at age 18. The idea of being young and pretty makes me smile.
I also wish I invested in Microsoft in the 80's, bought real estate in the 70's, and the love of my life hadn't left me over being trans. But it's OK. I have made peace with my past. In A.A. we say we have to go through what we go through to get where we are today. And today I am no longer in denial, have come out to myself, been on hormones for a year, will start medical transition in 2018, and am finally happy with myself.

I stay in today because if I have one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow I am pissing all over today.
Today is good!

Hugs,
Kateace

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I doubt there are any transwomen that don't wish they were given testosterone blockers before puberty and estrogen starting at age 18. The idea of being young and pretty makes me smile.
I also wish I invested in Microsoft in the 80's, bought real estate in the 70's, and the love of my life hadn't left me over being trans. But it's OK. I have made peace with my past. In A.A. we say we have to go through what we go through to get where we are today. And today I am no longer in denial, have come out to myself, been on hormones for a year, will start medical transition in 2018, and am finally happy with myself.

I stay in today because if I have one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow I am pissing all over today.
Today is good!

Hugs,
Kateace

Words of wisdom to be sure. Thank you,  Kateace