Quote from: kayla1618 on November 23, 2017, 04:59:55 AM
This story almost stopped me from starting....
https://4thwavenow.com/tag/mtf-detransition/
But a few days later I just said screw it, Im not getting any younger.
I know what I want, and Im not gonna let some guys 'cult/trauma' experience deter me.
And I told myself that if I end up de-transitioning out of regret, or failure to pass, well who the hell cares.
At least my life will have been a ton more interesting than the average human.
I stumbled into this thread somehow, not really sure how, and read that link on a whim. It was not what I was expecting, and find myself torn between feeling the author has a good point on a few issues while at the same time feeling as though he has lost sight of the larger world due to his own experiences. Note that this reply isn't to the thread in general, but more specifically that article.
I'd wager the overwhelming majority of us do not find ourselves in anything resembling a cult scenario as described by the author of that piece. Quite the contrary, many of us live in areas actively hostile to transition. That the author found himself in such a circumstance speaks to a larger issue than transitioning regret, and says a lot about the author more than anything else.
Having said that, I do feel that he is right to warn people of being cautious about certain group think scenarios, even if I believe he said this in a very poor manner. Unfortunately, I do believe that the modern political movement built around identity, both sexual and gender, has gotten out of hand in some respects, and while is empowering to many can be stifling and destructive to some who are vulnerable to the influence of ideological demagogues. Yet at the same time, the author fails to own up to the fact that he is the one who joined a commune! If you are joining a commune, any sort of commune, you are expected to conform to a certain level of groupthink. That is how they survive, everyone must be on the same page. And it sounded like he was ripe to be taken advantage of, in ways well beyond transitioning. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that transitioning is such an extreme thing to fall into in such a way, he was doomed in some form from day one even if it wasn't the ideology he found himself a part of. (To put it another way, he seems like he's the kind of person who would join ISIS. And I'm not being facetious at all.)
So yeah, group think is bad. Conforming to peer pressure and letting it dictate your life is bad. It's certainly something to keep in mind when one makes life changing decisions. And while there are some issues to be aware of when it comes to the cultural politics of being trans(for instance, I do tend to share some of the same fears about the cis/trans divide), the trans aspect of his story is basically completely circumstantial, and it sounds as though he would have done almost anything to fit in, in whatever community he wound up in. One man's malleability, in an environment of conformation, does not invalidate hundreds or thousands of us who find ourselves fighting against conformity to our own respective environments in order to be who we are. In short: For him, trans was the easy path. For most of us, it's anything but. You could even say his argument about not being led astray by local goup think can be used in favor of transitioning when placed in the context of most people.