Jayne! Welcome home! (temporarily). I didn't know whether to respond here or in your thread. I'm lazy so all in one place. You just keep holding yourself together. Changing your outward appearance may show the world who you are but just remember, you're always you on the inside. No reason you cannot give Jayne free reign in thought if not in presentation. Enjoy your VayKay, I expect lots of stories to make up for the many days of nothing. Seriously, no posts? I run out of things to read ......
Lori is still looking for guidance and answers, I fear she'll find the wrong ones. Yes, I expressed this to her. My single biggest fear is losing her. If she should find that her answers lead her to leave, I would be devastated. I've told her that that's why I hesitate to dig too deeply into scripture. We all read and interpret it based on our history and culture. Her history is a strict interpretation.
two hurdles to cross, reconciliation with 'faith and 'Faith' and also woman-woman. Lori still cannot handle the thought of being wife-wife. Spouse-spouse means the same thing to her. How that stacks up to having a reverse-dressed vow-renewal ceremony, I have no idea. To be honest, I am hoping that once I start meds that the dosage is enough to settle my head, make just enough change to satisfy the inner me, and leave enough old me on the outside to ease Lori's concerns. Right now I do feel that I'd be OK with minor changes that let me out without going 100% female in presentation. I'm close now. I can feel the edginess when I sit still so I know I'm not there yet. I really believe that an androgynous presentation will likely be my outcome ... let people wonder who/what I am.
I've stated repeatedly, and I'm sorry if this offends anyone but I am speaking for myself only, I do not and never want to look like a man in girls clothes. If that works for you (whomever you may be), that's great. It will not work for me. BUT, if I'm dressed up and people are unsure, I'm perfectly OK with that .. let confusion reign
Back to the (ex)friends. The whole conversation is a bit foggy now. Really, since they couldn't focus on me and my handling of how I want to be it kind of shut my brain down from paying much attention to anything that they said. I did confront one thing that was said and they refused to accept my answer. What was it? well .....
... The male friend looked at me and asked how my children were taking it. I had already said they were fine so I deflected and told him Lori could answer that question. She told him the same thing, our children are fine with it so long as I am happy. Well, he didn't accept it. He stated straight out .. No way, they are lying to you. It is like their Dad is dying and they are losing him. They are just afraid to tell you the truth because it will hurt your (my) feelings.
I told him straight out, "You don't know how my children feel, you are projecting your own issues onto them" OH No! not doing that. Your children are lying to you.
That shut me down. I lost all interest in hearing anything they had to say at that point. It was proof that no matter what they said about love and acceptance it was clear that they had no comprehension or understating of the situation and did not want to know. They just want to 'fix it' their way. I don't need your fix, no thank you very much.
Anyway, back to work. As
ME .. not him, not her, a mixture that is
ME.
ps.
This post may sound a little depressive or down. Nope, I don't feel bad really. Not really happy but I blame that lingering headache. Still, my headaches are so much less frequent now that they bother me more when they come. I used to have chronic 24/7 headaches so it became a ritual of 'ignore it, work around it, treat it when it's unbearable'. To actually go days w/o one is still strange to me.