Faith's Progress

[LexieDragon]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......


 

Def looking good!

[Michelle_P]

Faith, you look just fine. In fact, you look a lot like a friend of mine, a lovely older woman (cisgender) I regularly run into at meetings.


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[KathyLauren]

Faith, you look adorable!  Especially in the second picture where you are smiling.  And no I am not just saying that.  I mean it in all seriousness, hun, you look good.

[Faith]

Thanks y'all. I really am trying to see what you (and Lori) say that you see. Sometimes I almost can. Several compliments today at work as well and one beautiful (can't see that, that's for sure).

Had a talk with one gal, filling her in on what name to use, and it settled into girl chat. That's twice in one week for girl talk.

[LizK]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......


 

Good on you for calling out your doubters LOL

It so hard sometimes when everyone else can see her except you!! Trust us she is there and falling so easily into girl talk is just another sign that you are accepted for who you are.

Take care

Liz

[Northern Star Girl]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......


 

@Faith   Please, oh please, do not be so hard on yourself...  not ugly, and please don't take the pictures away.  I think, along with many others here, that you look terrific and you should be proud of your progress as you head for your transition goals.... 
Again, you look wonderful in those recent photos... your hair, the top and the skirt... and your posture and appearance screams female to all the eyes that see you.
Hugs and hugs,
Danielle

[Rachel]

I think your clothing selection is spot on, your hair is great and you look female.

I know self doubt can be difficult to overcome but you look really good.

[Anne Blake]

Faith, it is pretty well unanimous so it is a good time to listen to Lori and the rest of us. And, as difficult as it is to put it there,  your smile sells the whole image.

Take care girl,
Tia Anne

[Faith]

Alright, alright!! I get the message. I will leave the pictures up. you all are really pushy, you know that?

I guess I also have to admit that my opinion is in the minority when it comes to my looks/appearance. I'll try to come around, it's not easy.

Danielle, stay positive and I'll try not to say 'ugly' any more. How about, "Not as pretty as ..." just kidding! maybe

Rachel, I don't think I ever posted in your thread. I've read though it though. I should have made the effort to say how much I like your profile picture. I'll do it now, and pretty doesn't do it justice.

Tia Anne - I can't compete with Danielle's smile, I'll see what I can do. Honestly, I do smile a lot now ... unless I see a camera.

I'm running out of responses. Thank you all for your support, it helps a lot. Oh, um, Kathy. Adorable? Really? I think you're pushing the envelope a wee bit there....

[Donna]

Danielle's words are so very true. You have nothing to hide from and look great. Give your self a big hug, you deserve it.

[Faith]

Heading to the local water park today. It'll be my first public outing in my bathing suit.

[kaitylynn]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......

Oh Dear, sometimes we can be our own worst critics...you look fabulous!  I know how hard it can be to hear positives from others when we are feeling down on ourselves.  It can seem like they are just being nice, but actually they are being the best mirrors we can gaze in to.  Hope you can drop some of the harsh self view and see what others here are trying to reflect back to you.  You are beautiful!

[krobinson103]

I'll add to the chorus on that one. No matter how many people tell me I look good, beautiful etc I really can't see it. The fact that no one misgenders me anymore should be a clue but there is still a little nagging voice that says... they are being kind. We are our own worst critics and its hard to let go of that. One day I might be able to but you certainly should. No man in that picture and certainly not ugly.

[Jessica_Rose]

Faith, I'll echo what everyone else has said -- you look great! We are indeed our own worst critics and are the last to see in ourselves what other see. It has only been a week or so since I finally began accepting what others see, I no longer ask myself 'do they know?' everywhere I go. To be honest, most of the time we should never care what others think. As long as we are happy with who WE are, the opinions of others should not matter. I do admit I takes a while to get there! Believe in yourself Faith, and in those who have already replied -- you are beautiful!

[nikkiannukts]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......


 

Faith,

You look amazing.  Stunning!

Inspirational to those of us starting our journey.

Nikki

[Sonja]

Alright ... proof is in the ugly. Look fast before they're gone .......


 

@Faith

Hi Faith,

You look great! Great style, very calm and elegant at the same time, very attractive, love your nails! and your hair! 

Sonja

[Faith]

Heading to the local water park today. It'll be my first public outing in my bathing suit.

no water park, too many thunderclaps. We ended up at the mall instead. I did not wear my bathing suit to the mall.

Thanks again to all of you for your compliments. While I do appreciate it (very much) I must point out that even dressed like that I am gendered as him, he, and called sir. I do not pass close inspection, I am still a work in progress. that is without saying a word so it's not my voice giving me away.

I've read posts and threads from each of you. I need to make a more concerted effort to contribute back. I am still borderline introvert (as Laurie can attest).

I don't know how it was today, no one directly addressed me. I guess the highlight moment was when Lori got my attention to say, " ... us other girls have to go to the restroom ... " and will be back shortly. The window reflections were being kind to me, so ... maybe ...

[Faith]

Today marks the first 'official' day utilizing Faith as my preferred name, along with pronouns. A memo went out to the department that I work in. I also handed out a couple letters to managers of other departments. I have not met any resistance whatsoever. Reasonable questions about 'what if we forget' Hey, mistakes happen, it's OK. After a few months though .. should have it right by then .....

I have no intention of pushing the bathroom rights issue. There is an available unmarked privacy bathroom, I will use that as exclusively as possible. Secondary is a private bathroom that is marked for men but since it's single use/private it'll do when I can't wait. (which happens all too often any more ). I have no desire to make any women uncomfortable by forcing the issue. I point out that no one has said anything one way or another, this is just my thoughts and decisions.

[Susan Baum]

A Milestone Day - congratulations.

It's wonderful you have departmental and management support to help keep the smiles coming.

Susan

[Faith]

A Milestone Day - congratulations.

It's wonderful you have departmental and management support to help keep the smiles coming.

Susan

Thanks Susan. I will quote one manager's reply to my open note that pretty much sums up how my 'news' has been received here.

I really appreciate the letter you gave me this morning.  So often, we do not know the struggles our friends and colleagues are experiencing on a daily basis.  I commend you for confronting your situation head on.  I know this wasn't/isn't easy.  Please know that I respect your strength and courage you display on a daily basis.  I wish you the best.