I was talking to a friend at work today about 'things'. Talking about how some people are OK, others not, some assuming rather than knowing. I told him that I would prefer that they just ask questions rather than rely on rumor and misconceptions. Topic drifted around, he brought up how years ago he had trouble separating gender from sexuality/preference but finally got it and how some people still don't get it. He started to say "he understood" paused and changed it saying, "No, that's not right, I can imagine but I don't really know. No one can unless they're going through it".
It drifted into degrees of need. How some only need minimal, wear panties, small breasts that no one knows or sees but they know for themselves and that's enough. I stated that, unfortunately, I am one that needs to present the whole package, inside and out, despite the issues it can cause.
His answer?
He said, I don't think it's unfortunate. Yes, some people can do minimal and be OK but no one else knows who they are. With you (meaning me), you get to let out the real you for everyone to see and get to know. It's not unfortunate at all.
I just thought I would share a few tidbits of our conversation. It's nice to talk to someone that has no pretense, no specific desire or need to see me one way or the other .. other than as myself.
Faith
I know I didn't word this the way our conversation went, hopefully it comes across in a positive way, because it was.
