@Faith @Michelle_P @Donica Dear LadiesAs we all know, bad behavior and ill manners are not just only a male thing...
...women also can share these bad traits.
In the far back past I would make a point to hold doors open for both men an women, or especially allow the woman to proceed first, etc. .... often, unfortunately too often, when holding the door open for a woman they would just walk right through, not say thank, not make eye contact, not nod or smile, not even grunt .... when that would happen I would say in a fairly loud voice .... you are welcome ... as they made it through and past the open door. Usually I would get no reaction nor a verbal response as they continued to ignore my kind gesture.... or maybe I would then get a weak and perhaps apologetic "thank you" ... or sometimes I would even get the "finger" or verbal equivalent.
Now, as a woman, I make a point in saying "thank you," or "I appreciate that," or whatever kind thing that seems to be appropriate to say.
I know that a lot of women don't want to often or necessarily respond to kind gestures from men because it might be construed as an acceptance of some sort, and indeed some guys will view that as a come-on ... and then can they get quite forward with their demeanor, sometime disgustingly forward. I have found that with some of the men I come across in my town and even in the next door coffee shop.
Ahhh, the complexities of the human condition and the differences in the genders...
...it is a moving target so we have to be cautiously aware and be flexible with our approach.
Thank you ladies for sharing your thoughts.
Hugs,
Danielle
