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Poll: How do you identify? Ftm, Mtf, or...?

Started by PurpleWolf, November 19, 2017, 12:49:28 PM

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PurpleWolf


How do you identify? Do you consider yourself just a man/woman or do you use the terms transgender, transsexual, trans woman/man, mtf, ftm, non-binary, genderfluid or what...? Which terms do you prefer? Are there some you don't like or don't identify with?

Has this identification changed after transitioning, going on hormones etc.? (I've heard some people were uncomfortable with some terms pre-everything but later felt comfortable referring to themselves as "transgender" or "trans man" for example.)

How do you introduce yourself to other people? Do you use different terms when describing yourself to others as in your head?

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I personally feel I'm just "a guy". I don't use the term trans man nor ftm or anything. If anything, to me the term "transgender" or "ftm" is strictly a description of a medical condition. Like in a forum such as this. But I don't feel any connection to those words whatsoever. I'm just a guy. I don't feel any different to any other people.
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I am transgender, transsexual or trans woman. I am working on just plain woman which will come as I live it longer. I hate the term queer. I am also Monica, Moni, and sometimes Dad.
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Elis

Same as you; im just a guy. Or a person. I don't feel a particular connection to the label of male. Trans is just the type of human I am. FTM I feel is archaic as a term as I was never female just assigned that way because of assumptions. Non binary or/and agender I feel more of a connection towards. But rather just be seen as a person.
They/them pronouns preferred.



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PurpleWolf

Quote from: Elis on November 19, 2017, 01:22:52 PM
But rather just be seen as a person.

This!

Quote from: Elis on November 19, 2017, 01:22:52 PM
FTM I feel is archaic as a term as I was never female just assigned that way because of assumptions.
I agree. I think MTF and FTM is in the same category as the word "sex change" as if you are first female and then make a conscious decision to become a man or something... weird. Does not work that way!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Charlie Nicki

I use the labels "transgender" or "trans". And that's it.


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widdershins

To other trans people, I introduce myself as agender. That's what most accurately describes my gender identity.

When the topic comes up in everyday life, I introduce myself as genderqueer, because people are more likely to understand why that means. I don't generally bring up my gender unless someone asks about it though.

To medical professionals, I identify myself as FTM. I'm afab and on HRT and that's what they need to know.
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Roll

For the time being and foreseeable future, transgender woman. I am pre-HRT (any day now...), and not out to many people so I don't introduce myself as anything.
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LizK

I don't, I am me, first and foremost I am Liz.

Wether I am transgender/transsexual/mtf/woman is generally not something I get into with CIS people. Most people don't introduce themselves to me as "Hi I'm Mary and I am Heterosexual or My name is Eric am I am Gay"

If people ask or it comes up in conversation(rarely in both cases) I am Transsexual, or a Trans Woman.
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Shambles

Was looking at this question last night about myself, im very analitical and always liked to know what box everything is in for just about anything so labels were good as it helped my brain understand things.

After staring at them for awhile and getting down to about 10 or so of the ones i was able to find- half of which seamee to contradicted each other i now decide i dont like lables and i cant put myself into one of those boxes right now.

All i can tell right now thats its not male but i guess the more time that goes by ill get a better understsnding of myself
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Roll

Quote from: Shambles on November 19, 2017, 09:57:07 PM
Was looking at this question last night about myself, im very analitical and always liked to know what box everything is in for just about anything so labels were good as it helped my brain understand things.

After staring at them for awhile and getting down to about 10 or so of the ones i was able to find- half of which seamee to contradicted each other i now decide i dont like lables and i cant put myself into one of those boxes right now.

All i can tell right now thats its not male but i guess the more time that goes by ill get a better understsnding of myself

That's the right approach. I took about 6 weeks to decide I actually was a trans woman and not somewhere less extreme(in the binary sense) on the spectrum. Even then, I think keeping a questioning attitude and not taking anything for granted is healthy. A few people here I've seen say they thought they were, or perhaps even had to be, trans female or trans male only to eventually decide they were non-binary.

I tend to be skeptical about labels myself, but sometimes you just find one that fits, which I feel I did in my case. But it should definitely be a label of your choice, and not one imposed on you by anyone, be it society at large or even the trans community itself.
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5/21/18 - FIRST DAY OUT AS ME!!!!!!!!!
6/08/18 - 2,250 Hair Grafts
6/23/18 - FIRST PRIDE!
8/06/18 - 100%, completely out!
9/08/18 - I'M IN LOVE!!!!
2/27/19 - Name Change!

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pretty pauline

Quote from: ElizabethK on November 19, 2017, 07:39:22 PM
I don't, I am me, first and foremost I am Liz.

Wether I am transgender/transsexual/mtf/woman is generally not something I get into with CIS people. Most people don't introduce themselves to me as "Hi I'm Mary and I am Heterosexual or My name is Eric am I am Gay"

If people ask or it comes up in conversation(rarely in both cases) I am Transsexual, or a Trans Woman.
Exactly, I'm stealth, never comes up in conversation, wether we're straight, gay, trans or whatever, first and foremost I am a woman and my name is Pauline, then sometimes further information is sometimes required, ''married or single'' answer married woman, occupation fulltime housewife, that's it. Nobody discloses on introduction being trans, gay, queer whatever.
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Shambles

After some more thought I like idea of somthing I could pull off - the lesbian tomboy kick ass trans female although give me 5 mins and I'll probably come up with something else. I'm thinking segorny weaver from the first alien  film to be exact...
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16th Nov 17 - Came out to myself
7th Jan 18 - Came out to wife
31st Jan 18 - Referred to GIC / might be seen in 2020
Oct 18 - Fully out at one job, part out at another
Nov 18 - Out to close family
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Michelle_P

I'm Michelle, a 64 year old woman.

If orientation is important,  "I'm a femme lesbian" and optionally "with a touch of genderqueer."

If that promotes The Look, I may add "I got this way by being a transgender person."




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ainsley

I am just a woman.  I don't discuss my past with those that did not know me before i transitioned (except for doctors).
Some people say I'm apathetic, but I don't care.

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Barb99

Quote from: ainsley on November 20, 2017, 09:33:46 AM
I am just a woman.  I don't discuss my past with those that did not know me before i transitioned (except for doctors).

^^^ This. If I develop a very close friendship I may make an exception, but that will be very rare.
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Gertrude

Internally, mostly woman, externally male as I am pre transition. MTF is the standard acronym. For me it's not a medical issue, but one of development, like someone that has autism or being left handed. I'm just another expression of what it is to be human.


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xFreya

Normally I just see myself as a woman with a history of transitioning. For convenience sake I might say trans woman or transsexual woman (if relevant) but I don't like to disclose it. In an ideal world it wouldn't matter but I don't want people's ignorance to change their perception of me.
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MeTony

I see me as a guy trapped in a woman's body. I'm pre T and pre op.

I use ftm to make people understand, who know the term, in what direction I'm going. To people not familiar with the term, I say I'm a guy in the wrong body.

People on internet, not knowing me. I'm just another dude.


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November Fox

Just a guy.

Most of my friends knew me before, but it´s fine and not talked about often. 
Before my physical transition I used to see myself, first as genderfluid, then as transgender, and genderqueer. Now I only use the term transgender to indicate the medical procedure, and I´ve dropped the queer altogheter.

Transitioning has made me very boring  :D
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Julia1996

Just female.  I don't tell anyone I'm trans.
Julia


Born 1998
Started hrt 2015
SRS done 5/21/2018
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