Sometimes, you gotta just do what you need to do and not let others interfere with that process. Having an opposing wife is like having a gun to your head forcing you to live a life you do not want to live. Respectable it is to live your life the way you intend regardless of that pressure, and face your fears. Disrespectful to yourself to give in, and continue to live the haunt that's stead passed. Resurfacing it through condensation is not doing you any favors. Personally, if I were in your situation, I would not allow someone I was married with tell me to "slow" down the process of transcendence towards better days within myself. That's probably why I'll never be married, because I don't want anyone thinking that a piece of paper gives them power over my choices on being my true self. Thinking they have a say that disregards who I am, and forces me to fit the image they deem essential to their views of reality. That is not something I'm interested in. The answer will always be no, even in marriage if someone tells me to do something that counters what my heart is telling me to do. Take it at face value and live with it, or move on and find someone else. That's about all my spouse could do.
